Love or lust
Three months ago i met a man from a on line dating site. I was attracted to him straight away. We have met every week or every 10 days for sex but also to meet just for a coffee. I dont know if i love him or it is just lust. I have stayed all night with him 3 times now but on the second and third time he never hugs me or turns my way in bed and it hurts me, i love affection and i do feel that once we have sex thats it wheres i like to cuddle up. Take the other night i stayed with him, we had sex watched some tv and we sat close with him having his hands on my legs and resting his head against mine then went to bed had more sex and he didnt hold me in his arms or cuddle up to me. He said he loved me after a month but i dont know if its just lust for both of us. I talk to him about different things but he doesnt ask me anything and if it wasnt for me talking we would be sitting there in silence. When i stayed with him all night he weht into the kitchen and he was in there a while, his phone kepted texting a couple of times and i asked who it was and he said it was his brother but he as said this before to me and he wont show me the texts so i think there's someone else. He got the texts about 11pm. I still want to see him because i find him physically attractive but dont think hes serious about me and think im just sex to him but he did say he just didnt want to meet for sex so thats why we just meet for a coffee sometimes.he hasnt bought me a xmas card so i haveht with him. All ive had is one meal from him and coffee when we meet. I did say does he love me or it it lust because i think it is and he said lust but when he said to me after a month he loved me i dont think he knows himself.
I think what every woman needs to keep in mind is that there is a man who will treat you like a queen.
Sounds to me hes skating by, just doing the minimum to keep you around. He may enjoy meeting you for coffee occasionally. That doesnt mean hes formed an emotional connection with you. If hes found in the past telling women I love you leads to them having sex with him for longer, then it makes sense he woukd say it to you too. Does he ever tell you personal, opening up types of things? Does he text you during the day because he wants to know how you are? Have you ever discussed a future together?
I agree with Sunshine, the man who deserves your time and attention should make you feel amazing. This sounds more like you are just F buddies.