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S-e-x advice I have been dating a man for six years. I moved in with him a year and a half ago and I thought it was going to progress to the next step. But now that I lived there, I am realizing that his idea and my idea of a long lasting relationship are very different. I am 61 y.o. and he is 51. All he talks about is sex. We cannot have a conversation without him making sexual innuendos about everyone and everything. He thinks that girls and guys cannot be friends and if they are then "she's having sex with him". I am sick of it. He told me that unless we are having sex pretty much every day, then he doesn't feel "bonded" to me. Well I feel used. We had a fight 4 months ago about something totally irrelevant, and since my renters had moved out of my home, I moved back in. He has become touchy as heck about sex and I cannot stand the feeling I get when it's Friday and I'm supposed to go there for the week-end. (He refuses to come to my house during the week which further convinces me that all I am is a piece of sex for him). There is no cuddling, kissing, or anything anymore on my part because he will automatically think I want sex. He is not mean or abusive, do drugs, drink, or anything like that. He is good to my kids and grandkids, but frankly I am tired of feeling that that is all I am to him. What would you do ladies?

That's all he is interested in.

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You're sick of him and you feel used. Although he doesn't exhibit blatant abuse, do drugs or drink, he still has a trait that is a negative for you and your relationship: his attitude toward sex makes you feel very uncomfortable. You made a very good decision by moving out of his home ... that was step 1. Now do step 2 (the final step) and move completely out of his life. You are worthy of much more.

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I need to add this tidbit as well.... after the fight and I moved home he sent me a text message that has hurt me more than words can say. He told me, and I am quoting him, " Hell, I even bought you a ring but decided not to give it to you. The relationship wasn't going the way I thought it should be so I changed my mind." I asked when he had bought a ring and he said over a year ago. Really? Over a year ago and I still don't have a ring? So I told him that he had tainted it for me and I don't want one now. All I can think is this - I'm good enough to live there, clean, cook, and have sex with you, but I'm not good enough to marry????" I just can't get it out of my head, and yes, it has damaged my feelings toward him. I still can't believe he would text me something so mean. I don't care if he was "just mad" or not, it was immature, but it certainly opened my eyes, and I do not regret moving back home.

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