My girlfriend is a bisexual
I have been dating my girlfriend for almost half a year now, and since the beginning of our relationship i have known that she was a bisexual. Now please note that i have never really had any relationship with a bisexual girl before so i didn't expect what i am feeling now. Now even before we ever really talked i knew she was more into women than she was into men, or so others said. And it seems like that is true because she told me about the girls she has slept and hooked up with in the past and.. wow its a lot.
Anyway she told me about this one specific girl, and the things they did in the bedroom. Now for some reason this really disturbed me and it will come back to me and make me feel completely worthless and scared. Just imagining her doing these things with these other girls makes me sad and feel empty. Maybe its because i feel like as a guy i cant offer things to her that a girl can. My first question is how do i cope with these things, of thinking about her sexual past with other girls and how to stop feeling so jealous and just leave it behind.
The second thing is, she has this group of bisexual/lesbian friends. And almost every single one of them wants my girlfriend, because she is an extremely attractive girl. honestly not bragging or anything but thats just how it is. People talk and say how she is one of the hottest bisexuals in our community blahblahblah. Now it started when i was hearing rumors that she was full out lesbian, and that she was just using me because she did not want to feel alone, or because she was trying to convince herself that she isn't bisexual. I tried to brush it off until i finally saw screenshots of her telling her best friends that sometimes she feels like she wants to leave me and just be with a girl because she feels uncomfortable with me. And these lesbian friends of hers are trying to convince her that she is. Now this was a few months back and i talked to her about it she said that she had finally thought it through because we broke up for a period, but after she finally figured out we got back together and she only loves me. Now i don't know what i should be thinking, im just scared and it makes me feel uncomfortable hearing her stories with other women, or how she eyeballs other women. What do i do. it causes so much stress and pain in me. help
If your GF is currently CHEATING ON YOU, (no matter with whom) then you must decide if you want to live like this.
No other person would put up with sexual oogling of other people in front of their current beau or really want to sit thru all the "Sexalog" stories from the past. Are you subconsciously giving her permission to act out in front of you, or do you have a learned sense of helplessness (martyr?), 'cause you are taking sloppy seconds from her.
Your GF seems to be hyper-sexual (obsessed with all kinds of sexual activity) This may become a problem for you. Six months is not that long of a time. Sure you want all this drama around your relationship?
To be frank, you need to be on the same page as your GF and be able to accept her bisexuality. The fact that her actions and her reactions to your reaction of her other sexual partners tells you that you are not compatible as a couple. I spent 25 years married to a bisexual wife who never compared her sexual relationships with other woman to my performance with her but rather she put me on a pedestal as her husband. The end result was that I never felt threatened by her sexuality because of her respect for me and the way she showed this respect to me. I simply accepted her sexuality because I was always on the same page as her (loved her) and her continued efforts of contributing to our marriage (she loved me) made it easy to accept.
In a nutshell, your GF doesn't respect you for who you are while you have tried hard to accept her for who she is but you really can't win if she's on a different level and is not returning the respect back to you regardless if she is bi. She really shouldn't be discussing her past and present escapades with you if it makes you feel insecure and scared as a man.
The choice is yours whether you can continue to live like this and 6 months is very early days but the heads up for you is that you probably never will be able to stay with her simply because of her selfish and inconsiderate attitude to it all.
Life's too short to be with someone who doesn't return anything back to you in any sort of a relationship.