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ARTEMORTICIA
- Jan 6 2015 at 05:58
Member since: 27 October 2014
S-e-x advice Okay so I found a tin of old notes I had written back and forth with friends from jr high and high school. Eleven years ago. I was fourteen and I had the hots for this guy. He went to another school district and came to my district to visit his mother and his septet father. I don't know how the crush happened but it did and I really liked him a lot. He was just so different than other guys. He was very mischievous and outgoing and athletic, but he was raised a Jehovah's Witness, so he wasn't like the typical guys I went to school with. He was very sweet and polite and I guess that drove me wild about him on top of his pretty blue eyes... Lol

Well, I had written him a lot of love letters and poems and I was always too chicken to give them to him so I never gave them to him. Then I came across the tin and started looking through everything and then I came across a letter I had written to him and held onto for ten years. I decided to tag him and copy the letter nook a Fb post and I confessed to him that I had the complete hots for him. So he says to me a couple days later, "you should have just given it to me..."

So he starts messaging me out of the blue and this is the longest I'm conversation we have ever had... I asked him if there was any reason in particular why he said I should have just sent it to him, he said to me all vague like, "idk you just should have..." Then I asked him what he would you have done if i did give you the letter? He says, "idk really, this was all ten years ago and so long ago..." In yet he tells me before hand, I should have just given him the note...

Really? What does that mean? He has got me super confused....

I started to chat with him more and I asked him a little more questions to get to know him, and he revealed to me he is a very shy person and never ever makes the first move. I realized we are too much alike. Literally, he is the male version of me, and I am four days older than him to be precise.

Then he started ranting to me about this girl he was talking to and how he knows it isn't gojng to work between them. I asked him why and he wouldn't tell me. He said it was tmi so I played the guessing game with him, until i asked him if he was too big down there to have sex. Apparently I was dead on accurate. The discussion got more personal and he need up sending me a picture of his penis. Apparently he wasn't lying because the thing is about as tall in length as a ruler and big around like his wrist and en he asked me if I had a snapchat. Then he turned around and acted like he didn't want me to exchange anything with him when I offered. I do have a bf but there is an age gap between us and he told me since I am still young if I want to mess around with other guys all I have to do is tell him and ask him and he is cool with it. Pretty much I think I was off putting to him because he knows about my bf, and told me he thought it would be weird if we full out exchanged photos under those circumstances. But my ultimate question is, does he have a general interest i. Me or else he wouldn't have done that or am I just full of myself?

Why would he just out of nowhere bring up his sex life to me, show me a picture of his dick, and ask me if I had a snap chat if he is going to turn around and act like he has no interest in me all of a sudden? Could he be that shy that he's afraid to pursue anything with me? Idk somebody give me advice.

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SOULMATE (moderator)
- Jan 6 2015 at 13:23
Member since: 19 August 2014
Sorry, but 12 inches plus a girth of wrist width sounds so unbelievable I don't know whether to presume this whole thread is a joke or you just can't detect photoshopping when you see it.

That aside, it's quite simple:

1. He meant, You should have given it to me BACK THEN, NOT NOW. Now is too late.

2. But you pushed. And he let you because he likes the attention and ego boost (to make up for the present lack of it from his girlfriend or his over-demanding appetite in that department).

3. One of the main reasons you pushed was because you're in a sub-standard relationship and rather than end it and THEN look for a new partner (because you'd rather not be single for a while), you'd rather have TWO sub-standard relationships as if that's somehow tantamount to one 'perfect' one (no, it's not). And you thought he was a Like.

4. The reason why he refused a reciprocal picture is because he's not interested in making YOU feel good/ego-boosted, just himself. He just wanted to take-take-take for a little while until his ego felt better...which is now does. "Thank-you for your free service, and goodbye".

"Why would he just out of nowhere bring up his sex life to me, show me a picture of his dick, and ask me if I had a snap chat if he is going to turn around and act like he has no interest in me all of a sudden? Could he be that shy that he's afraid to pursue anything with me? Idk somebody give me advice."

You probably caught him in the temporary aftermath of a lovers' tiff, meaning dabbling somewhat with you felt like just vengeance. And no, his 'shyness' is NOT a barrier because present evidence of his HAVING a girlfriend runs counter to that wishful allowance-making on your part.

I'd advise you to end your useless relationship, take a few weeks to get over it and then put yourself back on the bona fide market where you'll attract a man with the bona fide willing AND physchological qualifications to be acceptable boyfriend material.

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