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Should I try to talk to him?

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Other advice So, on the last day of school before the holiday I had the stupid idea to give a note to the guy I like telling him that I like him. I did, and I wasn't expecting him to try to talk to me so when my friend said he was following us I ran away. I was too shy and nervous at that moment. In the note I included my username for a site called Steam in case he would want to add me. He didn't. School is back and he hasn't tried to talk to me, but occasionally makes eye contact and watches me. I don't know what to do. This is kind of making me feel depressed. Should I try to talk to him or should I just give up liking him?

Should I try to talk to him?

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Yes, well, what did you expect after letting him see you literally run away from him? Also, just because another avenue of approach was available (Steam), doesn't mean it's one he'd want or be capable of taking, meaning, for him the one avenue he *is* comfortable with has proven your idea of too much (meaning, you might run again). So in response he's obviously toned that approach method right down to where it's now just looking..and has probably logically concluded that you must need to feel YOU'RE the one with all the control regarding the when, how and where of the chatting commencing, so is waiting for a signal.

I WOULD tell you to beam widely next time he catches your eye to encourage him to come over to you but what good will that do if the minute he does, you might clam up or run off again? Especially as it sounds like he's almost as shy as you - hence having 'followed' you, during which time I'm betting he was just waiting to pluck up the courage to catch up to you and start a conversation... perhaps waiting to see if you and your friend would part at some point, whereupon he could then safely 'pounce'.

I think the best thing to do is write him another note, apologising for having sped off and explaining it's because you're extremely shy and maybe suggesting that perhaps you and he could start off with private notes back and forth? That or do said smiling next eye-connecting moment and summon all your bravery?

I'll bet once you do say hi and start talking, it won't be half as scary, awkward or intimidating as you imagine. Imagination always goes overboard in these situations, meaning the real event is not even a fraction as hard as you'd expected.

Basically, if you compare this to a tennis match, he tried to serve a ball but you ran off the court just as he was about to hit it over to your side, which means YOU now have to serve or somehow indicate he's safe to try a second serve.

Should I try to talk to him?

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Thank you, that helps a lot. I'll definitely try to do that!

Should I try to talk to him?

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De nada, Senorina! :-)

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