Moved on but still in love
Hi everyone, I'm hoping someone can help me out. I don't know how or if it's even possible. My story is a pretty long one but in short I met an amazing guy he was perfect and I honestly think it's the closest to true love I've ever gotten. I loved this guy with all my heart and he loved me. The problem was we both loved each other so fiercely and passionately that it destroyed our relationship. Neither of us trusted each other we were both really possessive and we had heaps of fights. I know that sounds bad but Please I hope you all understand that the love I had/have for this man is so intense it's maddening. So eventually he dumped me because "he loves me too much and he can't keep hurting me" so I was crushed and broken and now I have a new boyfriend, everyday I look him in the eyes and say I love you, our sex life is amazing, his caring, reliable, trustworthy and honest. He sounds like the perfect guy right??? but I'm still in love with my ex! I feel like a cold hearted monster telling my new boyfriend I love him (I've even moved in with him now) when I'm still in love with my ex. I know this sounds like the every day ex problems but I'm so in love with dylan I know I can't let him go. I'd rather be single forever with memories of him than be in a relationship with a guy I just don't love. But now I don't have the heart to break up with my new boyfriend because he loves me so damn much and I can't bear to hurt him. Should I just keep going with this healthy relationship and learn to love him or break his heart and be single hoping my ex will come back to me???? Please help me or at least tell me I'm not the only one out there with this problem. Oh and just for the record I'm not a silly teenager with puppy love syndrome, I'm in my 20s.
"Neither of us trusted each other we were both really possessive and we had heaps of fights."
Sorry, that's not "love" - that's intense, possessive, obsessiveness. But oh, so exciting.
So - yes, let that nice guy go (he deserves honesty, if nothing else) - then find a nice, exciting guy who has better qualities than the first one, but has a healthy balance of some of the things you find exciting.
You may be sorry some day about letting #2 go, but he's not giving you what you think you want. DON'T go back with your first ex. See that for what is was.