IS THIS WHAT LOVE IS?
My girlfriend and I have been together for a couple months. I'm absolutely in love with her, and she says she is with me. We both had not dated anyone in over a year before we found each other. She has a very busy life with school, work, job and her son. I know in my heart she's the one and accept her limited amount of time for me..recently her ex wife has let her know she will probably have their son full time due to exwifes new job. My girlfriend asked me to promise her that i wont let the lack of time come between us. I'm not sure what to think..I do love her, I know I do. I was hoping with time she would have more room in her life for me but it seems like its not working out that way. I'd love feedback, please anyone
Hi, Luck. Help me understand a little more. If I'm understanding correctly, you've been exclusive for two months. How long had you been dating before that decision was made?
I'm not rally sure what to think either. Based off the little you've said, it seems you already feel a little compromised because of how active her life is. And now being a primary care-taker will take even more time away from your relationship.
Do you feel comfortable sort of playing it by ear? Maybe making a strong commitment to yourself - since you'll have the time! - to really check in with what's working and what isn't and communicate that to her when necessary? Or maybe you'll be able to schedule recurring time together each week? I mean, that's not very romantic, or spontaneous, but it's a possible solution. And you can be as spontaneous and romantic as your hearts desire during the time you've scheduled.
What's making you question what it seems you're sort of feeling isn't going to work out? Talk us through it a little more.
Thank u for ur response, I think ur right, playing by ear is the direction I'm gonna take it. I love her and I adore her son. I feel so deeply this was meant to be. If its gonna take some time to get things right so be it. I know she's worth it.
Well, then. That was easy. Haha
I don't assume your journey will be, however. This will be challenging, but it seems you're prepared to do the work because "she's worth it." The only thing I'll add is to remind you that *you* are worth plenty as well. So remember that while you're working it all out, and just make sure you're not giving too much of yourself away here.
Best to you!