Why did he break up with me?
1) We dated for 4 months, got to know each other over the course of a year
2) We're teens
3) His reason for dumping me was that he just wasn't ready for a relationship, but he said that we could still be friends
4) He seemed VERY INTO ME until one week prior to the break up, when he was a little less physically affectionate and didn't see me quite as often (but that could be because of parental intervention--see 9). When he was planning our last get-together (aka, when he dumped me), he seemed desperate to see me again (so either, he was DESPERATE TO DUMP ME or his parents were forcing him to ASAP)
5) Up until MINUTES before the break up he texted me ALL throughout the day (as he always did after we started dating) asking about my opinions, interests, what I was up to, giving me updates about his life, saying good night, etc.
6) I was recovering from surgery... so maybe he just texted all the time because he felt bad for me? We discussed many other things beyond how I was recovering though
7) He bought me flowers about a week before the break up due to my injury
8) He always kept up with doing me little favors/being a gentleman
9) One of his parents (who he is VERY close to/who he allows to control nearly his ENTIRE life) made it clear they did not like me.
10) He is very passive and aims to please his parents first and foremost
11) He is not a player (I was his first gf)
Do you think his parents made him dump me? Was he not ready for a relationship? Did he just lose attraction to me? Please be honest. Thank you!
Sorry you're going through this! My opinion is in agreement with your thought that his parents probably made him do it. Seems like he's into you, and it was a lot less embarrassing to say "My parents won't let me have a girlfriend" than to just say he's not ready. Sounds like his parents think he's not ready and he parroted that to you.
Obviously, *you* would feel a lot better to just know that he cares about you, but his parents don't want him talking to you anymore. He's a teen guy, though, ya know? I mean he does want you to respect him, and saying something like that is pretty difficult on the ol' pride. So making it sound like it was his decision allows him to walk away with dignity rather than risk losing your respect. That's just my opinion on it based on what you've said.