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S-e-x advice I've just recently gotten out of my longest lasting relationship and truthfully i still have frelings for him but at the same time i started texting him and he told me about this sexy girl he met at some car event he went to and they took some pictures and they kissed. And i know it sounds like im just some clingy girl who cant take a hint but we hadn't even been broken up for 24 hours. Am i wrong for wanting revenge sex and if not is it a good idea to go through with it?

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He just did revenge text to you, so how did that feel?

Besides, how do you know he will even CARE?

It takes time to get over a long term relationship. If you truly want the breakup, then BREAK UP - that means cut off all ties with him, including texting, phone, FB - everything.

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Sex should be about you and the person you have sex with, never about someone else. How would you feel if someone had sex with you just to make a point to someone else and you were just the tool to do it with? Also, it sounds like he broke up with you and is moving on, it sounds unlikely to have the effect you desire anyway.

I agree with Susie, admit it's over and focus on doing what's good for you :)

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Thanks for the advice. I asked some other friends as well and everyone is saying the same thing and I've gottten past wanting revenge. It was an incredibly stupid idea. Although ive come to accept that the relationship is over and i need to focus on making me happy that is easier said than done. Im just really depressed. So much that i dont eat right and ive lost a significant amount of weight. I'm my happiest first thing in the morning but as the day progress i slowly start getting more and more down. The only thing i can do is put in my music and try to focus on my work but even then i can still feel the heaviness in my heart.sometimes i get like this for no reason at all and others are when i try to figure things out and i just give up. I dont know what to do anymore. Can someone help me?

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Only to tell you that grieving is a process with a beginning, middle and an end, and that you'll get through it whether you think you won't or not.

But this is what I noticed:

"he told me about"

**TOLD** you.

Blah. Blah. Blah. (Yawn)

Typical.

Truthfully, bleedin' obviously, he still has feelings for you, too, otherwise why try to rev you up. So I suggest you lay low until he gets it more out of his system (you too). Then maybe you can both review the situation and see if there's anything left to salvage. You 'go in' whilst he's in prat mode, though, and - as you've just seen - it'll bring the prat out in you. And THEN where will you be? Answer: both throwing your teddies at one another. You can't BOTH be prats, it won't work and will just make everything ten times worse.

But here's the acid truth. If a man was capable of chasing and wooing you at the start, he's still just as capable when it comes to having to RE-chase and RE-woo. So what are you doing texting him? Are you Tarzan and he Jane? ;-p Be a lady. Wait until he contacts *you* - not least because that'll be a good indicator of his having reverted to his more sensible self.

Keep an open mind, though, because usually how this goes is, your prince suddenly walks in, making the ex-not-ex look like chopped liver.

This is not a losing situation, in other words. It might well be a blessing in disguise. So don't touch a THING, let Fate bring about its inevitables.

Relax with a Cadbury's Caramel and try to actually *enjoy* what may be your very last Mancation.

Meantime, here's a little-known truth: if by how he behaves and what he chooses to say/tell you, a man whom you're especially close to makes you feel a certain way, emotionally, then that means he's COMMUNICATED how HE feels. To you. So ex-not-ex feels threatened and (in his imagination) jealous. Woila! Next time, don't rise to it and take it on as yours.

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