LIZBARBA - Jan 29 2015 at 07:29
So about two years ago I had a boyfriend and we had problems. Every time I tried to confront him about something I couldn't. It was like if I couldn't talk, it was beyond my control. If I did get to tell him what was bothering me he would turn it all around and I would just I agree with him. I guess I don't like fighting. Anyways, I didn't wanted to be in a relationship until I truly got over him. A year pass and my current boyfriend started to do everything in his power in order for me to fall for him. But, I was not ready I wanted to be confident and be over the other guy. So he stood by my side for another year. I couldn't be more grateful for him. However things have changed ever since we became a couple. we could spend a whole week with out seeing each other if I'm lucky enough I get to see him once a week. We barely talk maybe 30 minutes to an hour in a day sometimes we don't even get to talk. Last time he went to a party after he dropped me off at my house and didn't tell me about it. And I know its a relationship that's why I try to call him or text him I even invite him to places but it still doesn't work. The worst part that frustrates me is that I get the same feeling with my ex boyfriend I cant tell him what bothers me. I just cant talk or open my mouth when I try to confront the situation and this is getting to me. I dont know how to get my self to talk about what bothers me.
i have looked at your problem i understand you are going through a tough time with your issue. unfortunately these things don't come easily no matter how much we want them to be. i have been in a few relationships and had problems and i have discovered ways of overcoming these problems . the main thing to think of is you. i'm not one of those experts that have a working view of things i'm a guy that has been through these things except with girls. if you can't get over certain people think of them and then think of others at the same time and slowly you will start to forget about these people and your feelings will lessen about them. the issue with your boyfriend is very common, i have done the same as him and know how he is feeling. basically he likes you but there is something stopping you , and this is obviously your inability to open up to people . this is a easy to overcome. two reasons you can't open up to this guy is because you don't actually like him all as much as you think or you aren't in the mood at the current time to do this. what you need to do is sort yourself over this other guy but going for your current boyfriend will help. with him you need to get him interested and then you can open up with these things you need to go for it. to get him interested you can him re-interested by talking to him and randomly at points use a sexual term but this doesn't have to lead to you talking dirty and hooking up. you just need to leave sexual words in a couple paragraphs this will get him interested and then you can open up. but tips to seem reasonably sophisticated is to leave the messages for a bit like let him meassge you then leave it for 5 mins and then message him back . if he says he loves you or something like that reply saying the same thing this will leave the conversation in a happy mood and then you can start making plans but do all this over a month or so . i would love to know if you have any worrys about the plan i have set for you and if it has helped and if you have any other problems ;)
I really appreciate your advice especially coming from a guys point of view. I do like my boyfriend im head over heels for him, is just that I don't know how to express my self on what bothers me. your plan sounds good is like fixing the problem with out actually telling him. at list that's how I understand it. thank you very much :)