Long distance relationship/ lying boyfriend (Gay)
so my boy and i have been together for 5 months .. its a long distance relationship but we visit each other every month or a month and a half.. i
we have had our ups and downs.
at the beginning of our relationship he kissed another guy and i found out by myself. but we werent so committed to each other and distance is hard.. and what makes it even more harder is that im not out of the closet.
we had a serious talk and i forgave him. we told each other that we are commited to each other and that its a monogamous relationship. during xmas break i took his phone and saw that he was kinda fliriting with a guy i asked him about it and he said there is nothing. so i asked him to stop flirting eith him and to write him more less. the thing is that after he cheated on me the first time .. im having problems trusting him again.. specailly that he is away and i dont know what he does, though he always texts me and snaps me.
then comes instagram.. im a very jealous boyfriend and i cant help it.. i've told him that i dont like when he comments on another boys pics like " waw ur cute" .. he stopped for a while and then he went back and took it to another level where he asks in the comment for their Kik accounts.. we had a big fight about it.. he appologized and promised that he is gonna stop and delete the comments and wont flirt with another guys anymore.. lately things have been great and im happy but yesterday he sent me a screenshot from his phone and in it there was a grindr notification ...! he told me he doesnt have any dating apps in his phone..
i dont know what to do i love him and i feel he really loves me too but he just likes the attention of another guys flirting with him ..
ps sorry about my english.. its my second language
Well, he does sound like a bit of a flirt. Sometimes flirting can be harmless. Some people can stand to be with a flirt and some can't. It sounds like he's trying to cut back on the flirting in order to make you happy, so that's a positive sign. As for the kissing another guy, that was at the very beginning of the relationship before there was a commitment established, so maybe that wasn't so bad. It sounds like you two like each other. My advice is to give it some more time and see if you grow closer as time goes on.
and i did.. everything went ok and it was perfect we talk the whole time we skype the whole time spend the weekends sometimes watching movies through skype .. everything was perfect and we were planing to meet at the end of this month.. until yesterday he was talking to me a little weirdly.. and then he told me he was having sex two hours ago with someone and they also fucked last week.. and kissed to other boys in the gay bar toilet... it was shocking ... after six months now together .. he says sorry i like to have fun... dont wanna be committed .. if you want to be in a committed relatioship go find a girl.. gays dont do that...
ive been in shock for the last hours i cant even cry... he was saying he wants to marry me..