Im a Bastard
So ive been with this really sweet girl for about a year and 8 months and weve had sex and she absolutely adores me but im falling for another girl
In order for you to stop being a bastard and start acting like a real man..is to tell your gf as respectfully as you can the truth of how you're feeling.You can't help how you start feeling for someone but you can control how delicately you tell your soon to be ex gf how you're feeling for someone else.Obviously she will want to know if you've stepped over your boundaries regarding this new girl that you now have fallen for...tell your soon to be ex gf the whole truth.She deserves that.
Please either try to make it work with the one or end it before you start with the 2nd. There is never a reason to cheat.. I know you didn't say anything about cheating but I am just saying. Just wondering if you were in a relationship so long what are you doing hanging out with another girl anyways long enough for you to develop feelings for? Me personally I dont think that is right. I know it could happen with a co worker or something but do you really like the new one enough to lose the old one?
First off you are not a bastard and neither should you call yourself one.
It's in the human nature to gain feelings for someone even thought it might not always be the right time or person. Starting off with the fact that you've had sex. You did not use her because at the time you were having sex you did love her. That's the important thing. Now, you need to be mature and handle the situation in a gentle manner. You need to talk to her and tell her how you're feeling about the other girl. Also before talking to your girlfriend you need to think everything through. For example, are you sure you're falling for her and not just her looks. You need to know what you're feeling before you break up. If you're sure you have feelings for the other girl then talk to your girlfriend. You need to see where you stand because are you risking leaving your long term girlfriend for someone else.