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A best friend, an unforgettable guy..

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Okay so a week ago me and a few of my closest friends were at a party and this guy came up to me and we started to talk when he introduced himself i remembered that my best friend liked him a year ago and she also lied that she made out with him. When this guy told me the whole story I started being very defensive of my best friend and told him that she liked him. Furthermore, he asked me to join him upstairs and I did. We hit it off amazingly and had an unbelievable chemistry. There he tried to kiss me twice and I said that it would be against girl code. He then made a head gesture like too bad style and we went back to the party. . I told my best friend what had happened and she told me to go ahead cause that was a long time ago. I don't believe that statement I think she still has feelings for him. How in the world do I shake this feeling of regret and disappointment off and do you think I did the right thing? P.S I like him very much and all his friends told me I did a very stupid thing cause he is an amazing guy, Oh and I whispered to him at the end that if it weren't for my friend, the night would have a different outcome. I had to let him know how much I wanted him.

A best friend, an unforgettable guy..

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If you ask her how she feels about your proceeding with this guy and she LIES by saying she doesn't care - that's HER look out. Not yours. You've DONE your bit. You've given her her chance. Dating's like a game of tennis, but where the object initially is for the man to show off, not you. You just respond and set up great shots for him. Basically, he, your at-the-time tennis partner, served you a ball. You hit it back but half-heartedly, meaning, it hit your side of the net. Although healthy dating demands that you don't ever start serving until after he's asked you outright to be his exclusive and committed girlfriend or signified such via an action, such as, 'complaining' about the fact you never initiate and leave everything to him (whereupon you should commence serving one ball to his every three or so), at this stage (chasing-wooing), you ARE allowed to go up to the net, retrieve your failed return-of-serve and re-hit it to him (with a "So-reeeee!";). In application, this means you texting/phoning to say that you were wrong or behind the times about how your best friend felt so, does his invitation still stand because, if so, you'd like to accept it? If you can't manage that, I suggest you tell his friends about your change of mind, safe in the knowledge that it'll get immediately back to him.

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