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Please advise me (distant marriage because of too much expenses)

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Relationship advice Hello

please help, I have been married for 2 years plus and I and my hubby are based abroad we are supposed to have had 2 kids by now but I lost both pregnancies to miscarriage. The 1st was 5 months and 2nd was 6 months. Now my husband has decided that I should relocate to our country so that we can save money and have a better life since we are consistently spending money here. The truth is we spend too much on house rent on monthly basis and hospital bills while I was pregnant and we don't even have savings since I came here. I don't know if it's the best thing to do I feel for my husband but I don't know if relocating and leaving him abroad alone would be the best thing. Though he said he will be coming home to me ones in a while and we will be talking on phone daily. He also said I could visit him anytime I want but I just want to ask if it's the best thing to do. Please help. I love him and I don't know if distant marriage works. Helpppppppppp because am finding it difficult to take a decision

Please advise me (distant marriage because of too much expenses)

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Hang on a cotton pickin' minute!!! What is your husband 'saying'? That he wants you with him whilst perks are in the offing but the minute things get tough (this case, expensive), you should get going?

'Once in a while' is not marriage. If this set-up wasn't 'advertised' to you at 'point of sale', and pre-agreed by you, you do not have to accept this new serious alteration to the expressive and tacit terms and conditions of that past 'contract'. If you don't agree to it and your husband insists on it, he's broken the contract.

The fact he'd even WANT that makes me suspicious. I'd have thought what would be considered the easier thing to do in the mind of a man in love who naturally should want to LIVE with his lover-wife - as is the entire POINT of marriage - would be to get a better paid or second job (or to even ask YOU to get a job, even a part-time one)! Or are finances NOT the reason?

Tell me, how badly has your husband always wanted kids?

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