Ex insisting on physical relationship
I have only had one relationship before marriage, which was very serious for both of us. Unfortunately it didn't work out because of other people in our lives. Anyways he is married now and so am I. I have children and is leading a fairly happy life. I have been married for 6 years. However me and my husband are not very intimate after our kids- too tired and irritated at the end of the day. My ex has been in touch via email for few months and tells me that he misses me a lot. He wants to meet up and have sex. He says that i am his soulmate and he would love to have sex with me at least once. Of course I have loved him so much and deep down I still do. So I am attracted to him at the moment too. also because of my own love life is not going to well. I am so confused, should I fulfill my and my ex's thirst for each other? at least once? or would i be a bad wife if i did that? also i am worried because i don't know if i will be able to stop if i start this. Any advise please!!
Do not have an affair. It is extremely selfish of you to even consider an affair. Think of your husband, your ex's wife, and most importantly your children! Work on your sex life. I have a terrific relationship with my fiancé but we sometimes go through dry spells too and I would never imagine cheating on him. If I ever got to that point, I would have to just reconsider what I am doing with my life and think about what I really want and make a decision as to stay and be loyal, or leave him and have sex with my ex. It just doesn't seem worth it. If having sex with your ex is worth risking your whole family picture, then there must be more issues than the lack of sex you are having. Also, my fiancé shared with me how stressed he is with family issues and that is what primarily causes a strain on our sex life. He finally just admitted that to me a few days ago, so is your husband stressed about things? Is there anything you can do to help alleviate his stress if that is the case?
The two of you have created a family together and marriage is not always going to be easy. You really need to work on your inner strengths and have the will power to get this guy out of your head. Tell him not to contact you anymore and block him. That will fix it. And then just focus on how you can make your sex life better. Best of luck to you.
Thanks a lot for your reply.. i needed to hear this..! thanks!