So Confused & In Love
I have been dating a wonderful man since November of 2013. We started off seeing each other all the time. At least 5 or 6 times a week. We have been on 3 vacations together and thoroughly enjoy each other's company. The problem is, when I mention commitment, he freezes. He says he's not ready for a relationship, but is only interested in seeing me and hopes that's enough to make me stay. He says he can't tell me if we will ever get married or not, but that he is crazy about me. Well back in late September 2014, I approached him once again, telling him that I understood his feelings and how much I loved him, but this was killing me. I backed away for a couple of months. I started contacting him again in December/January and everytime we get together, sparks fly and everything is wonderful, but we only see each other maybe once every week or sometimes two. When we are together things are awesome, but once we part, I usually don't hear from him unless I contact him. And of course if I suggest any plan, he's right there with me and ready to take part. I just don't understand why he won't contact me first. Have I totally screwed up? I miss him and love him so much, but am at a total loss as to what to do. I don't want to thrown it all away if I just need to be patient. Anything worth having is worth fighting for, Please help!!!!
you have not screwed up. just try talking to him sometimes it takes a lot to pull a man out of his man cave.
most men will always pull away a little bit when it come to a relationship as people don't like feeling that they might get hurt.
honestly though if you really have strong feelings he will be worth the time to work all this out.