Does he want me back? Why is he doing this?
The past 2 months, my ex snapchats me, flirts, and sends stupid and random stuff, and some of it I don't care about. I know he does that cause he still loves me, and he still does it. Sometimes he sends me 6 snaps with no reply from me, he's done that twice. Recently, he's text me (because I told him we needed to talk about stuff, and him texting shows he still cares for me/ us). I didn't reply to one of his texts and he text me a few days later asking why and he got mad (another sign he cares). Recently, he'd been sending me selfies, random and stupid stuff, and flirts. He sent me 2 selfies yesterday within an hour, no reply from me, and it just screams "I LOVE YOU AND I WANT YOU BACK". He wants something (us back together) or me. Can someone explain this?
Anyone? Do you agree that he does with all these actions?
If you know he does it because he still loves you (although that begs the question, then why did he let you get away in the first place, so let's change that to 'still for whatever reason wants you'), then what is it you're asking for advice over?
Stand back and look at this situation objectively. He and you were intimate both mentally and physically. So why is he merely TEXTING you? That's like him trying to ring your doorbell by throwing a stone at your doorbell from half a mile away. Does that show determination? Or is it fashioned to see how determined YOU are to mentally see it as an action worthy of definite response?
Surely, if you and he broke up due to some problem and he wants reconciliation, he'd be willing to sit down with you to resolve the problem and put it behind you both? And yet what do we see? Answer: him getting ANNOYED at you putting the problem onto the table. Conclusion: he doesn't WANT the issue put on the table. He wants to ignore it. Why would he want to ignore an issue that would inevitably just come full circle again if lasting long-term with you were his aim? Wouldn't that be so stupid as to be called 'retarded'? Answer: Yes. So if his objective isn't to secure long-term, what does that leave?
SHORT-TERM. "FOR NOW".
His b*lls are aching. That's it. Not a great motivator hence the action output is correspondingly weak yet 'naggy'.
If he wants to fix the relationship in order to resume the relationship, let him do what that takes. A proper attempt at resuming contact. Anything less? Ignore, ignore, ignore.
That's like putting him in a bathful of acid to see what his bones are made of and whether he even has any, including a backbone. Because when a man REALLY wants a woman, he does what it takes and fear of getting a no doesn't feature... which is because the fear of NOT getting you back overshadows it. Completely and utterly.
In the meantime, selfies do NOT scream 'I love you and want you back'. They say this (think hungry stoners and pizza): "I'll go if you pay".
Pfff!, is what I say to that.
He knows where your front door is. Let's see him prove he has a need to use it.
Oh, and if you doubt what I'm saying, ask yourself this: Did he initially get you to go out with him and become his girlfriend by literally doing nothing but texting? (I'm presuming not.)
He let me go because I was going an extremely emotional time and I wasn't myself. I needed to be alone. I only posted to see if I was thinking correctly. And I think the selfies. The fact that I didn't reply to the first one, and he sent another one 20 min later, it kinda does scream it. He sends me a ton a snapchats with no reply from me. He sent 7 yesterday.
"He let me go because I was going an extremely emotional time and I wasn't myself."
Oh? And how long had he been your boyfriend? Only 2 weeks? RSvP.
Stop making excuses for him or you're doing yourself down. And don't reply to his snapchats unless it's to be HONEST and say, 'It's going to take more than that to re-win the heart of THIS fair maiden!'. If he sees that as a green light to make a more definite move, including spelling out that he wants you and he to resume your relationship to the same level as before (or even greater) - all well and good. If he doesn't, if he continues with the selfies or even decreases or ceases them, you'll know all he wanted was nothing better than perks for too little work, aka an FWB set-up with him beholden to you for nothing. After all, despite you've failed to answer that question of mine - when initially he was after a relationship, he did NOT do nothing but send selfies.
My point there is, he knows how to pursue a woman to the point of bagging her, ergo he knows how to RE-pursue to the point of RE-bagging her. Agree? RSvP.
I'd prefer you not talk to me as if my relationship was a middle school thing. We were friends for a year, and dated for 5, almost 6 months. He had a huge crush on me when we met.
And you have no right to say I'm making excuses. I went through a very hard and emotional time from my grandpa dying, and everything got worse from then.
Oh, and I read his actions more than his words. And to me, and other people, they say he still wants me. And actually no, We talked a few times after we broke up, but we ended up fighting like a married couple. He hasn't stopped snapchatting since we broke up, and we've text a few times.
If you have anymore rude assumptions, keep them to yourself.
And I'd prefer you to abstain from seeking advice on this forum until you're  firing on all cylinders,  less overly negative and defensive as has you getting the wrong end of the stick about what was merely a *sarcastic* comment (ref 2 weeks) and NOT liable to automatically read malintent out of nothing but a matter-of-fact, to-the-point fashion of delivery devoid of ANY intention, let alone attempt, to insult, and  less liable to be childishly petulant, rude, pompous and arrogant just because it turns out you don't like what you're hearing. In other words - when you can make use of what this place is intended for and do so with befitting, adult decorum.
Until then, I'll just add this (for the benefit of others in your boat): Wants you FOR WHAT. Instead of over-focusing and squeezing as much juice as you can out of inappropriately half-hearted actions, try focusing on what actions are ABSENT that should NOT be absent on the part of a man gagging for a full-blown reconciliation because he loves and misses a woman like crazy.
Over and out from me. But if you speak to anyone else like that who now dares give their honest opinion, just because they fail to fluffy it up or sugar-coat it, consider yourself deleted. PLENTY of posters are heartbroken when they come on here, but they don't all see that as free license to start snapping at people and thinking they can order them around, who are merely trying to help them solve a confusion. YES, confusion, as in, conflict. For if you'd believed those 'other people' - because what they'd fed-back made perfect sense and rang true - you wouldn't have needed to come on here seeking more.
Didn't read the whole drama story, but enough to know this: You seriously need to listen to Loveline with Dr. Drew. That'll fix you up. But in lieu of that, Snapchat (whatever that is) is no way to communicate with someone. If he or you wishes to communicate as ADULTS in a PRODUCTIVE way, then it is to be done face to face. Otherwise, this has become a game of emotions which neither side will win. Stop the drama, stop the chaos, decide what you want and do it.