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Relationship advice It hasn't been long since we broke up, and he lives in a different town, no danger of seeing him!! he deleted me on facebook, and the only time I tried to call was once when he left over the wknd. its been really hard, not to think about him, or obsess. I had a set back and sent him a facebook picture a couple of days ago, to which he read and did not reply. I know I have to move on, get over him. its different because he has hurt me, cheated on me, to which I stayed!! and then we get in a big fight and this time I cheated. I feel really bad, but that is why he left. I accept that. I just really wish I could stop missing him or picturing a future yet with him. What is keeping me there? I have been reading self help articles on how to get over a break up, I would just like to not care. I know it takes time, but I am stuck in a place where all I can do is think of him and my heart is heavy and I want him out of my head and heart because he has moved on.

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"and then we get in a big fight and this time I cheated. I feel really bad, but that is why he left."

DUAL STANDARDS ALERT!!!!

Do you REALLY want to make a life with an over-entitled beep-beep who thinks he can do x, y and even heinous z but you can't? What kind of life would THAT be? Talk about 2nd-class citizen?!

You dodged a bullet and you KNOW you did. All you're trying to do is get him back, wait for him to get back to full confidence and then - WHAMMO! - get the last kick in before dumping his arse. Yeah, well, exes are not the only fruit where getting back that removed chunk of ego are concerned. Sure, it's the MacFaster route. But who told you anything worth having took only 5 minutes' worth of doing virtually nothing but standing?

Date yourself. Start treating and spoiling yourself, both healthily and indulgently. Do that properly and, with your needs now met by other sources, your mind won't keep hankering back to him. That simple!.. albeit not that MacFast. And then get back out there in the marketplace, now knowing that you want "someone liiike yooooou" (to quote Adele) but *without* the over-entitled, "one rule for you, another better one for me; one for you, five for me" bit. Because trust me, over self-entitled uggers are NOT a great ingredient when it comes to Happy Love Pie, meaning, you've just swapped 50, 60, ? years of chronic pain for a couple of months' worth of acute. I call that a great deal, me. Don't you?

The every day struggle

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thank you, those are great words!!

The every day struggle

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You're welcome, missus! :-)

Feel free to post again if you have another bad moment. Otherwise - onwards and upwards! (... which is more than can be said for spoiled babies in grown-up suits like him, eh).

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