PeoplesProblems Logo

WHAT TO DO

Default profile image
Hi i am priyanshi a 27 yrs old women i got married before 2 years with my boyfriend we loved each other so much at that time.but now i realize he is totally changed.he argue and anger even a small things and start fighting he never understand what i want he always blamed me that you can not understand my problems.some times i thinkg this the end of my life i have nothing feeling hopeless.pls suggest

WHAT TO DO

Default profile image
You're stuck in the Conflict phase of the relationship because you can't communicate effectively to one another due to the pair of you getting overly emotional during negative discussions (which blocks IQ). My suggestion is you write to each other via letter or email, back and forth, until mutual understanding is reached, whereupon you and he can start negotiating deals and compromises so that you're BOTH happy with how the relationship is overall getting run.

WHAT TO DO

Default profile image
Email method is good but for some that too doesn't work well if understanding is lacking. My suggestion is for a while don't address your differences. Do things for him that you haven't done before (this gets his attention of you). In case of an argument control your temper and just tell him "Ok, I understand what you are saying (even if you don't find it reasonable)." See what has happened is over time he has shut his ears to you. To get it to open you need to give him the confidence that you are trying to understand him. Once he starts feeling that automatically he will start listening to you too. At the end of the day it doesn't matter who is right or wrong, what matters is how happy you both are together.

This thread has expired - why not start your own?

B-2