My marriage is failing
My husband and I have been married just short of 2yrs and we are both distancing ourselves from one another. I feel he doesn't understand me and feel invisible a lot of the time while he has a successful career and when home tv consumes him. I feel a great divide and don't know what to do. We fight constantly over little things. I know it's just the underlying hurt that we both feel towards each other. I have many faults as well. What do I do to try and save my marriage?
Believe me you can work it out. I have had similar issues and have succeeded in settling my attitude, which was the main problem and we have had 50yr married. Hopefully someone in here, can give you time and will pick you up and advise, they did me and I am 75, so if old gits like me can be taught stuff, I am sure you can. Good luck
Thank you for the advice. Congrats on being married for 50years!
Perhaps I do need to settle my attitude. My patience is low with so many things. I have constant 'triggers' in my marriage that keep me in the state of 'what am I doing, what are we doing?' There are so many feelings that I am afraid of. Thank you for replying moody_one.
Its common to get into this phase of marriage that you are in. Get back into that romantic phase. Surprise him with special messages, do things for him which he is not expecting you to do, plan out a vacation together, try introducing some changes in the sex style (like games with foreplay, blindfold, teasing .... internet is full of ideas. Choose whatever suits you both) etc. When you surprise him and get his attention on you automatically fights will be lesser.
Define 'feel invisible', define 'a lot of the time', define 'tv consumes him', and define 'little things'. Plus, hurt towards each other over WHAT? And name some of your 'many' faults.