At the end of the day, he has given up his computer, and what kind of guy is happy to part with his gadgets unless there's a more important reason to do so? Don't let your self confidence be crushed by this incident.
I caught my bf watching porn and I squeezed his b...s. I know that wasnt right but my impulses took over.
We lasted 2 years together, he was in his mid twenties and we had awesome sex life.
I left him for many reasons and now we are friends and he´s told me he became addicted to sex and porn because of me and he was in the urge all the time.
Let me tell u, this is a lie. Men in general from what I´ve heard do not compare u with porn models at all, they watch it as an easy way to get turned on and release stress or blow all their fantasies.
This has nothing to do with you as a woman, I felt devastated because we were having amazing times together and he was still leaving me in bed, waiting for him while he watched porn.
I realised I wasnt the one with the problem at all. He was a voyeur and well there are many like these.
Do not let this affect your self steem, you are ok. I´d only suggest trying to speak up and perhaps watch it together, enjoy together, and also from your end to be keen to please him more.
Hope it works for
thanks for replying.
i did try to please him all the time i knew i was the one with more expierence but look where thats got us,no where now i feel like whats the point if porn does it more for him then i do,am i wrong?sorry if i sound bitter but its all kind of shatterd my illusions.
I'd give him the benefit of the doubt though with his explanation. As he's never been in a relationship before he was probably trying to find 'what to do'? being in his late 20's its not like he can ask his mates for advice on this kind of thing! He wouldn't want to look like he didnt know what to do in front of you - that would kill his ego and make him feel even more inexperienced.
He may have a low sex drive, but I think that he's feeling insecure about his ability with you and thats probably why he says hes not that interested - he doesn't want to perform in case he's not good enough for you. porn is no threat to his performance or experience.
Try to encourage him, convince him he's doing the right things, hitting the right buttons!
sorry to hear its happernd to you also i understand your pain,i got to the stage that ive ended up on anti depressence,however after a month of being on these tablets im seeing things clearer.
im beginning to relise its not about me and whats the point in worrying myself silly about him watching porn,i see my boyfriend has sufferd just by the fact that i know his dirty secret,have you told your boyfriend you know?
please dont worry yourself about it ive learned that im bigger and better then that,im not the one with the problem.
one day i'll probably laugh at the state i got myself into over this and hopefully one day youll feel the same but please if you need someone to chat to about this ill try and help you how others have me,
take it easy sparkle.........
Pornography is a simple means to an end. Don't read anything else into it or you'll go nuts. Men masturbate to pornography. That's about all there is to it. There is no emotional attachment to it. Men are visual, women are less so. Men don't love their wives/girlfriends any less because of nude photos. Men usually begin masturbation to photography at an early age and it sometimes never goes away. It's a private matter, not something the man wants his spouse to be aware of... "Honey, I'm going to masturbate. I'll be right back." In a way, ! be thankful there is pornography - how many men would be seeking actual sexual experiences elsewhere if it didn't exist?
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