What to do, crushing hard
I have started to fall for a guy whose friend likes me. The friend is a good friend of mine and we hang out quite frequently, the guy i like lives with him so i see him quite often when im around there, i have no idea how this guy feels, we get on very well and he shares alot about himself but never talks about relationships or girls, i know he doesnt have a gf though. I dont want to hurt my friend and i also dont want to make a move not knowing how this guy feels and make a casual situation rather tense and awkward. Is there a way i can find out how this guy feels without talking to my friend or making the guy think that i like him, i think if i have more of an idea of how he feels then if its mutual it will be easier to talk to my friend rather then start drama over something that wouldnt work out anyway (given this guy doesnt see me that way). Its really a gut feeling, something i see in his eyes but it might just all be in my head, i have started thinking about him alot more. I know this isnt the biggest problem but any help would be appreciated.
Before you find out if your crush likes you, resolve everything with the guy you think likes you first. Explain how you feel. Once that's all done, you can focus on the guy you like
a bit more information i guess, try to sum this up short as possible. I have tryed to resolve things with the friend before, i have always made it clear that i dont feel the same and he respects that and i respect that you cant control how you feel about someone. I dont lead him on and aside from how he feels our friendship is like any other. If he couldnt be friends with me because of how he felt i would understand also and when i have had a partner in the past the friend and i drifted apart a bit but as we share alot of mutual interests and currently live close by we hang out quite often now. The guy i like is the first person ive had feelings for in a long time, i dont want to initiate anything and ruin any friendships, given i wasnt rejected anyway. I tryed talking to my friend about how it would impact our friendship if i started seeing someone (not mentioning anyone in particular), he said he would probably try to be happy for me but would never want to meet this person. So now i have no idea what to do whether i should walk away from the situation completely, he is a good friend and we share mutual friends. I want to respect how others feel and i dont want to hurt anyone but im unsure of the right course of action here.