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Massage time changed to chat time

I need a massage due to stress knots in my neck and shoulders plus migraines. I moved and started with a new masseur this is the first time I have had a female. We became friends, massage time has become girl chat time and do not feel relaxed when I leave. I want to keep the friendship and change to a different masseur. I am going to keep the last appointments I have made with her and then will not make another appointment. I have already found another masseur and made appointments. How can I tell the one I want to keep as a friend?

Massage time changed to chat time

I'd wait a few weeks, then call her for lunch. Be prepared to tell her why you have moved on to another service since she will probably ask. (Maybe she didn't know you preferred the silent treatment, and you did, after all, talk back) Let your new masseuse know that you don't want conversation with the massage. (I'm the same with a pedicure so I know what you mean)

Massage time changed to chat time

Thank you. However, she works opposite her husband's schedule so she will not have to pay a babysitter. We have not ever had chat time outside of the massage office. She checks her phone while the session is taking place. She brought her toddler into one of the sessions and my hair was pulled. She truly does not preform the best massage (or even close) that I have ever gotten. I have requested and explained how my last masseur successful handled certain problems however the massage does not change. I have been wanting to change for a long time and have not due to the feeling of friendship. I do not want to ask her to meet me anywhere to tell her this-- my desire is to be short and sweet and let her know at the end of my last scheduled appointment. I do not want her to know I am not satisfied with her service. I would like to keep a relationship. What can I say in 50 words or less? my thought is "I have allowed massage time to become girl chat time and I would rather keep the friendship so, I am going to find another masseur. Give me a call when you want to talk or get together." I do not want her to believe this is her fault at all. What do you think?

Massage time changed to chat time

But it WAS her fault, dear. She behaved very unprofessionally (a kid in the room? answering the telephone!) The issue was that you let it go . . . instead of speaking up and setting boundaries on your patronage. Whatever . . . this has jumped the shark. Your suggested 'bow out' is too really too kind. Good luck.

Massage time changed to chat time

I do realize I am letting her off the hook easily and trying hard not to be confrontational. I moved into an extremely small town and she knows practically everyone. When I was in larger cities I did not even consider this issue. I simply did not reschedule. However, as this is a tiny town I do not want to offend anyone. My next masseur is in a larger city. Yes, the drive is longer but I will not have these issues there. I have not heard the statement "this has jumped the shark" before. I am guessing that it means this topic is hopeless and I give up, good luck. Any other thoughts??

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