Should I keep trying? I really need some help and advice
Im a 25yrs old girl
i'm sick and tired of being hurt from my ex girl-friend after our breakup now we are only friends and we live together, we have had many fights over nothing honestly when I'm talking to her she'll always be complaining about why I'm talking, or if we're having just a normal conversation out of no where she stops and says that I don't need your opinion and you don't need to talk (first time that happened is was like a slap in the face) I was shocked honestly, and confused at the same time ... She knew that it was her fault and that she did hurt me, I just didn't say anything after an hour she came apologizing to me...When I first moved in with her after 2months that we've been having arguments about the smallest little thing you'll imagine she told me congratulations you've completed the task of dealing with the most difficult person you'll ever meet in your life and that I haven't seen nothing yet.... I still love her to death tho and I don't want to lose her as a friend either ... She wants to talk whenever she wants to talk, she wants to hangout whenever she wants to do so...she's never interested friendly on nothing that I do, no one that I see nothing that talk about in general But it's always weird and awkward being around her, the only thing I try to do is keeping my self distant so I won't get hurt by not talking to her unless if she says something because If I try making just a small normal conversation with her as friends, sometimes she won't respond (ignores me) or gives me an evil look... I just don't know why she's treating me so badly, I feel so sick, I don't know what do to do, she's effecting my life physically and mentally, from what I experienced with her so far is to expect the worse to come out from her, meaning that she will bite me anytime, and possibly out of no where so as of right now, I'm keeping my self distant from her, by not talking to her unless if she needs or asks for something, she's really moody one minute she's normal and fine then in not a manner of a second she can totally change and starts acting so weird, but I always remain the same respect for her.
I'm scared of her honestly, I don't know why my heart starts being so fast when shes around and it's causing me so much stress, I started having panic attacks and feel nauseous when shes around... I know it's definitely unhealthy to live in such an environment like this at all but I'm still sticking around because I moved in to help her as a friend with rent at first place...
I thought about moving out, I told her and she got paranoid and said no I don't want to loose you as a friend and I'm trying to work this out...
For a fact I know that she won't find anyone who can deal with her bad temper, this is why I'm still around and trying to find a solution...
But this is driving me crazy and I feel like it's affecting and ruining my life in so many ways.
What to do? I need help please? Thanks alot
You can stay and be used as a doormat and abuse taker OR you can leave and get your sanity back. It sounds like she has immense problems which you have nothing to do with, and she needs a whipping boy (or girl) to take it. Stop being that person. Get yourself in a safe place around loving people.
I have a feeling you will be replaced soon. People like her are users and will take in her next "victim" because she needs to show her superiority over another person.
Should I Keep Trying: I've been asking myself that same question for weeks now. I am a 28 yr old female, been with my partner nearly 2 years now and have a 5 month baby daughter together. This man I'm with, I love him dearly although we haven't been together very long it feels like a life time. We have been through so much together in so little time, I've looked after and been loyal to this man and will always be there for him but, my only issue with our relationship is that I feel as though my feelings towards him are far from mutual. When I fell pregnant he provided me with a lifestyle any woman would wish for, financially I don't have a worry in the world. But emotionally I feel cut off from him, he spends his days working, but once work is done he spends all his free time on the phone like literally from the moment he finishes until around 4/5am. The only time we spend together is at dinner, but still he'll answer the phone if it rings.I understand that some of my feelings may be a little exaggerated due to having a newborn and my own insecurities but with her routine now in place. I feel like an hour in the evening is not too much to ask after I cook, clean etc. our relationship is now at a point where I will start a conversation with him and he will ignore me as if I'm invisible the only time I get a word from him is at breakfast, lunch, dinner or when he wants sex. He says I'm not appreciative of everything he has done for me financially, which is not true of course I am, but I have to keep reminding him I'm not the ex. I didn't start a relationship with him for his money, I love him. And I'm trying to make this work for us and our family, but instead of giving me reasons to stay, it's like he actually wants me to go. Tonight he made a racist comment about me on the phone to his mate, and when I pulled him up about it, he decided to sleep downstairs. Although he says he loves me, I really don't think he does which makes me wonder why am I still trying.