My soul for sale for £5000... in debt... depressed
I've been suffering depression a while now...knowingly...been ongoing for the last 10 years..I think it's due to me being diagnosed with cancer when I was 28...high grade B cell lymphoma..stage 4 and I was given 2 weeks to live when I was told...so immediate chemotherapy....r-chop..rituxan etc for 9 months so beating my 2 week diagnosis and thankfully I'm still here today...still as alive as I am and have been for the years since I've never felt like me..feel like I did before or the chemo etc....after the 9 month chemo...I was released from hospital...suffering from memory loss etc so I was dealt with by the mental health services and given a section 28 6 month stay to help retrain my memory etc help me remember what I had forgotten...you see when I was diagnosed I was in full time work had a partner of 15 years school sweethearts...and two kida..a son who was 4 and a daughter who was 1.....whilst in hospital things were difficult as you could imagine...the shock to my partner etc....as the chemo went on months past by I was a state..very ill...and I missed lost something...my partner...you see when I was released from hospital I was sat in the hospital cafe with my partner who told me I could not come home due to the fact that she had moved on and that we were over..shenhad started uni whilst I was in hospital and meet a new fella more suited to her current lifestyle..as shocking as it was for me it orompted my memory to blank..hence my section 28..6month stay in mental health institute so I could get my head straight etc..since leaving and getting back on my feet..I had problems seeing my kids as she was making it very difficult for me etc with her way of life now in uni...I decided to fight her in court...a year later I had gained full custody of my 2 kids never to see her again...shame as kids need a mum as much as I can do a mum is something irreplaceable so hopefully one day she will return....my kids are happy and always have been disputed there mum not being around...I've devoted my life to my kids before this incident but since being a single dad and now having a second chance at like I belive it was for me to be here for my kids so I could bring them up the way they want...there happy....its me I'nm depressed very..In debt £5000 and feel sick all the time...I cannot settle..relax etc...kids always asking me what's wrong etc..this is an like 10 years of debt...given my kids the best I could all the time but it's built up over time and I feel trapped...as I do not see there mother I cannot get any help that way so feel lost as I'm very limited...I need to shift the debt to be ablle to move on mentally etc..I feel I'm dragging my kids down with me with this depression...the debt and previous medical issues..it was hard enough dealing with the fact I'll never feel right after the chemo so it's a battle every day...which my kids get me through...but this debt on top is killing me...the only thing I've got is a diamond ring I could sell for maybe £2000 but that's it...I need so help with this I can keep getting phone calls letters threats etc...need to sell my sole for £5000..it's dragging mine and my kids lives down...we just want to be happy!
And I thought I was in deep shit when I came here.
I am so sorry I can't help financially and can only offer - don't despair. things happen, good luck to you and the children.
Hi Lostsole, I have experience helping people with their debts and I know how it can affect your mental and emotional health. Please do get help, there are many not for profit/charities offering debt advice who can stand between you and your creditors. What they do is look at your income and expenditure, find a payment option that is best for you and also fair to those who leant you the money and then set up payment plans with those people. As long as you make those affordable payments and keep the charity and creditors updated if your circumstances change then the hassle STOPS. You get the space to relax knowing you won't have bailiffs at your door and everyone describes it as a weight off their shoulders. Check out Christians Against Poverty (available for anyone, not just christians) or StepChange. Good Luck
THANKYOU for your replys and advice..it's good to talk hey..