Finally I am free, its been over 3 weeks since my ex and I split up!! the first week was really hard, I missed him so much and would have done anything to get him back, I had cheated on him though and he couldn't forgive me, although I stayed with him after I caught him. we had been off and on for about 4 years (since we met) over the weekend he was drinking and decided to msg me from facebook. started ok, then he was just hating on me and threatening to expose what I had done to the world. For a few hours anyway, I know I should have just closed msgs!! anyway, as per our previous agreement, he was going to take my cat for a week, as the next town where he lives has a vet on wknds. I went to see him, and we had breakfast with my kids. I thought we had gotten back together, seemed normal. come time to pick up my cat, he would hug me but no kiss, said he is still mad at me. kind of broke my heart. buttttttt that is not why I am saying I am free, I am just updating on what has been happening. I met another guy, he is my age, separated, and works (my ex didn't) and seems to be pretty into me. He works in my area and is now off for 2 weeks, wants to see me when he comes back, and it seems pretty perfect so far, we just click and its great, making me a little worried if it will work out. I am happy beyond happy!! Even if my ex comes back now, I will be able to say NO!!!!!!!! even if it doesn't work with the new guy. free from the vicious circle of hurting each other and jealousy with the ex!! looking forward to what the future may bring and taking care of myself, diet, exercise, reading, movies, cats and my children!! going to enjoy the happiness I feel now and not look back. I thank everyone who has given me advice or shared words with my previous posts.
Keep repeating what you said: 'I will be able to say NO!!!!!!!! even if it doesn't work with the new guy."
Whoopi Goldberg just said, "I wish I had known sooner that I like being on my own. If I had figured that out earlier, I probably wouldn't have gotten married 3 times.'