First of all, I would like to state that whatever I advice, is up to you to follow or not. I take no responsibility for any consequences if any.
Saying that, I would like to state what I would have done had I been in your situation:
Pregnancy is a period where every woman has mood swings. They may be forced to sit back at home, take an off from work, and may be asked to stay at home and not go out, so as to save you and your new born from any dangers/injuries. But, that has it's own limits.
I understand that your husband has asked you not to take anti depression pills, but that may be because he thinks that they are not healthy for you and your baby (which is actually true as they do have adverse side-effects at times).
I may suspect an odd behavior or ill intentions behind your not being invited to the dinner and especially when your husband clearly states that WE BOTH DID NOT WANT YOU THERE. In such cases, I would suggest that you ignore such stressful thoughts FOR THE SAKE OF THE UNBORN BABY as such stressful thoughts and actions may cause trouble.
I suggest you keep ignoring these issues till the time of delivery of the baby. Once the child is/are born, you may call both (female colleague and your husband) for a small chit chat and sort this issue out. You must take wise decisions as it is not just you who is involved in this mess but your baby as well. So whatever decision you may take, think about the child's future before taking any step as any action positive or negative, will impact the child.
as an alternative, you can talk to a trustworthy mutual friend who knows that female and your husband (maybe school time or college time or office colleague) so as to be sure of any suspicious behaviors on the part of your husband.
either ways, its your time to be taken care of, and be pampered, even if ou are being a bit unreasonable. Sit down with your man and tell him how you feel. and do whatever you need to do to stop being depressed- its very very important for the baby.
If the situation seems bad and too confusion right now, maybe you can go over to your parents house or your best friends place or something, and stay there till you feel better. It may not be that your situation is genuinely bad, maybe its just the pregnancy hormones, but you do not need to deal with it right now. and you cannot let yourself be anxious or depressed. shut it all away for the time being, you only need to feel special and happy right now - and its okay to be selfish!
god bless you and your baby!
How is it that your husband is taking single women out for dinner without you? Is she a co-worker? family friend?
Could there be the possibility that they were planning a party for you? Or do you suspect something sinister? Do you know her?
Would he go to counseling with you? You can get more explanation where you can let your feelings out in a safe place.
Why aren't you taking the medication that will make you feel better?
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