How to get this guy love me. please help.
I am a 24 yr old girl working. I have a guy ( say X ) in my life, who is 26 also working, and stays in another country.
I know him from school, but actually started talking wuth each other regularly, after my college,about 4 yrs back. At that time we used to chat regularly. He was getting serious about me, but at that time i was coping with my break up with first bf and was busy settling my career. So i was not paying much attention to him. This hurted him and he stopped all contacts with me. As i was busy finding a job so i too didn't contacted him.
After a 4-5 months when i got a job and was in the initial days of my career, another guy(say Y) came to my life.
This was a very bad relation. A lot of family problems were alsi there. So after 6-7 months with this guy i decided to break up with him. At that very moment mr X reentered my life.And told me why u made another bf. I wanted a relation. Cant u wait for me etc etc. But at that time i realized that leaving mr X was a mistake from my side. He was a good guy.
Then i finally broke up with Y.
Now i am not a virgin. I had sex earlier with my first bf and also with Y. I told X about this thing with my first bf but hidden the fact that i had sex too with Y. Now Y in d verge of anger contacted X and told him this.i too confessed about it to X after that.
This hurted X a lot. After that his feelings for me changed.
Now the thing is he doubts me a lot. As i had made a bf as he stopped contacting me, si he had a fear that this time too i will betray him. So he dont expreses any kind of love or caring for me. But doesn't want to break up either.
Now a days he doubts me for little things like being online at whats app/ fb. Even if i tell him with whom i am talking to or what i am talking about still he gets angry.i have tried exply to him in every possible ways,but whenever get gets angry he tells bad names for me.
I really don't know what to do. I dont want to loose him.
We too had sex with each other.i confessed my love for him but he jst dont want to think of any future with me, also dont want to leave me. Please suggest what should i do? I am in a very bad condition emotionally.
Wow! This guy has double standards, doesn't he?
He has sex with you, but is upset about your past.(What about HIS past?)
He is also unwilling to consider you as "relationship material" (marriage?) because he considers you "damaged goods.' Yet, he is a part of that!
Does he come from a cultural/religious community where the bride must be a virgin?
Perhaps he might get over all this over time, but don't count on it. This sounds ingrained.