I am a 24 yr old girl working. I have a guy ( say X ) in my life, who is 26 also working, and stays in another country.
I know him from school, but actually started talking wuth each other regularly, after my college,about 4 yrs back. At that time we used to chat regularly. He was getting serious about me, but at that time i was coping with my break up with first bf and was busy settling my career. So i was not paying much attention to him. This hurted him and he stopped all contacts with me. As i was busy finding a job so i too didn't contacted him.
After a 4-5 months when i got a job and was in the initial days of my career, another guy(say Y) came to my life.
This was a very bad relation. A lot of family problems were alsi there. So after 6-7 months with this guy i decided to break up with him. At that very moment mr X reentered my life.And told me why u made another bf. I wanted a relation. Cant u wait for me etc etc. But at that time i realized that leaving mr X was a mistake from my side. He was a good guy.
Then i finally broke up with Y.
Now i am not a virgin. I had sex earlier with my first bf and also with Y. I told X about this thing with my first bf but hidden the fact that i had sex too with Y. Now Y in d verge of anger contacted X and told him this.i too confessed about it to X after that.
This hurted X a lot. After that his feelings for me changed.
Now the thing is he doubts me a lot. As i had made a bf as he stopped contacting me, si he had a fear that this time too i will betray him. So he dont expreses any kind of love or caring for me. But doesn't want to break up either.
Now a days he doubts me for little things like being online at whats app/ fb. Even if i tell him with whom i am talking to or what i am talking about still he gets angry.i have tried exply to him in every possible ways,but whenever get gets angry he tells bad names for me.
I really don't know what to do. I dont want to loose him.
We too had sex with each other.i confessed my love for him but he jst dont want to think of any future with me, also dont want to leave me. Please suggest what should i do? Yesterday he got me online on whats app,as i was discussing the same problem with a guy friend. He got very furious as i earlier told him that i dont talk to any other guys except him,which i really do. But yesterday i was very depressed and my friend pinged me so i told him. Listening to this he got very angry on me,and stopped all contact with me from yesterday. What should i do? I am in a very bad condition emotionally.plz help
honey , its okay . Mr. X needs some time to adjust to this. i think you shouldve told the truth from the start. it seems like X is getting a bit controlling now. maybe give him your phone for a day or 2. show him your sorry but also dont beg him it makes you desperate . i wish you luck ! Mwah xoxo
It is understandable that he feels hurt because you were less than honest with him. He feels betrayed so it is acceptable for him to check up on you, to a point. If he does not realize, in quick order, that you are a good and honest person and allow you to live your life normally, then you should tread with caution. In my experience some men are looking for excuses to control us. I was married to one and during those years was separated from many of my friends and was completely alone only for him to cheat on me! be careful sweetie.