I am a 24 yr old girl working. I have a guy ( say X ) in my life, who is 26 also working, and stays in another country.
I know him from school, but actually started talking with each other regularly, after my college,about 4 yrs back. At that time we used to chat regularly. He was getting serious about me, but at that time i was coping with my break up with first bf and was busy settling my career. So i was not paying much attention to him. This hurted him and he stopped all contacts with me. As i was busy finding a job so i too didn't contacted him.
After a 4-5 months when i got a job and was in the initial days of my career, another guy(say Y) came to my life.
This was a very bad relation. A lot of family problems were alsi there. So after 6-7 months with this guy i decided to break up with him. At that very moment mr X reentered my life.And told me why u made another bf. I wanted a relation. Cant u wait for me etc etc. But at that time i realized that leaving mr X was a mistake from my side. He was a good guy.
Then i finally broke up with Y.
Now i am not a virgin. I had sex earlier with my first bf and also with Y. I told X about this thing with my first bf but hidden the fact that i had sex too with Y. Now Y in d verge of anger contacted X and told him this.i too confessed about it to X after that.
This hurted X a lot. After that his feelings for me changed.
Now the thing is he doubts me a lot. As i had made a bf as he stopped contacting me, so he had a fear that this time too i will betray him. So he dont expreses any kind of love or caring for me. But doesn't want to break up either.
Now a days he doubts me for little things like being online at whats app/ fb. Even if i tell him with whom i am talking to or what i am talking about still he gets angry.i have tried explaining to him in every possible ways,but whenever get gets angry he tells bad names for me.
I really don't know what to do. I dont want to loose him.
We too had sex with each other.i confessed my love for him but he jst dont want to think of any future with me, also dont want to leave me. Please suggest what should i do? I am in a very bad condition emotionally.
Few days back he saw me online in what's app. I told him that i was chatting with a guy about our problem. But as i told him earlier that i dont chat with any other guy except him, (which i actually do,but yesterday i was very depressed and that friend pinged me so i replied). He got so angry and called me a liar and told me from now we are just friends.
What should i do? Plz help. I dont want to loose him
Let the poor guy go. He wasn't your first choice. From what you say I'm guessing you feel vulnerable and have a need to feel loved and wanted.
X wasn't enough for you when it was all going well but now that's gone down the drain, he's suddenly good enough?
From a blokes point of view, let him go and get on with his life and let him find someone that will truly love him. Stop being so selfish.
Hello , basically I don't think you have to force the love , I think if it's not meant to be you should find someone else , who will love you naturally and for who you are