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well, have been doing ok without my ex, over 5 weeks now. been now 2 weeks since I have seen the new guy, as he has been on 2 week leave, didn't exchange numbers or anything, although he said he would see me in 2 weeks. first week or so been great, all happy and cant wait to see him!! its now 2 weeks, and I am worried it is just not going to work out. nervous? scared? yes all that for sure!! starting to feel like I am not good enough for him, or our lifestyles will not be the same. I mean really, 3 sort of dates, and now waiting for a couple weeks, how do I know if he felt anything amazing like I did? feeling sad right now, and just blah!! im sure he will be back in the next day or two, and maybe I am making a big deal (positive or negative) out of all that it was, I mean, really. maybe just a fantastic fling and now it is back to reality. not really expecting a reply or advice, since I have no idea what will happen. not pinning any hope on this, but sure has been fantastic thought, fantasy, to actually meet someone that seemed pretty into me and thought I looked great and asked things about me and my life and I learned somethings about him. wait a few more days or so, I don't know if the holiday coming up will affect his work. just needed to vent I guess. will update if anything happens or doesn't happen with the new guy.

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You JUST broke up with your BF. Have you PROCESSED that yet?

Whoopi Goldberg said she wished she would have known how comfortable she would be just being alone. Maybe she wouldn't have been married three times.

How about just going solo for a time to figure out what lessons you need to learn from the past and get a plan for the future. Your "need level" may be very high, too high. Perhaps this new guy picked that up.

How do you feel about not having a BF for a while?

There's something very seductive about a confident, secure woman who has her life together. Men are attracted to that.

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yes very true. I need to get used to being on my own. I can see how maybe I have transferred feelings to the new guy. have been sick so haven't been working out or running lately, that has always helped me in a way where I can let feelings of needing someone to feel better about me, I guess being with my ex, I always wanted more from him then he was willing to give, and perhaps feeling like I need to find that now, but have been trying to work on me, being ok with me, not relying on someone else to feel better about myself. I need to take a deep breath and remember who I am without a guy in my life. thank you for helping me see how important I am!! will continue on my journey of finding myself and being happy with the me I see in the mirror everyday and regain my confidence!! ty

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I also don't see anything wrong with dating around a bit after breaking up. I wouldn't get too attached to one person just yet, but It's fine to see this new guy again too. It's nice to have a confidence boost after a breakup and dating is a nice way to get that. And you can still be single while dating, it's not like you are in a committed relationship with the guy already. It's fine to be jittery and nervous about it, we all get that way about even the idea of dating someone new. Just don't make yourself sick over it, it's just for fun right now, right? I wish you luck, whatever happens.

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