It all started in 2014. I had an arranged marriage in last jan. I am from a well to do family.we have our own house car and every thing. But my husband had nothing. They stayed in a rented accommodation. My husband did not have a separate room for himself. Before the marriage i only met the guy only once. We started chating with each other over phone and fb. Anything and everything that i used to say he would discuss it with his mother and then would give me ans the next day. He used to never share his individual say on any matter. I never liked this trait in him i discussed this with my family but they never took it seriously. I also thought all will go fine after marriage. But this kept on happening even after marriage. After marriage we used to sleep in drawing room. After my husband left for kanpur after honey moon my mother in law used to sleep with me to keep a check on me so that i cannot speak with my husband. My in laws never wanted us to go for honey moon. But with great difficulties we went. Then after coming back from there he went back to his job back in kanpur leaving me back in his home in assam for 2 months because his parents did not want us to be together. They wanted me to stay back for about 6 months but when my parents objected then after 2 months they took me to kanpur along with them. There also his mother every now and then constantly created misunderstanding between us. Till the time his parents were there with us in kanpur he paid all the expenses by selling his camera and other household stuffs.he never understood my problems he always supported his parents. Then after his parents left i asked him money for daily household goods but he bluntly refused and next day gave me only rs 120/- for getting goods. He also told me that he was not getting salary from last 2 months. I had to do all the house hold chores by my self without any help at all. When i asked him about his job he never discussed anything with me. He rather warned me that i should never visit his work place. During our 1 month stay in kanpur i had fallen ill . My husbank did not have any money for my check up. I had to pay for my medical expenen also.i 1ce paid a visit to his office after dotor's check up and he got very furious at me and warned me nev er ti visit his offcice again . He only wanted only one thing from me "only sex". I had to run the family with my money which i had saved before marriage when i was doing job. I had to quit my job for my marriage.his parents never well behaved with my parents after our marriage. I am my parents only daughter so my parents gave a lot of dowry cash during marriage but they were not happy with it . They wanted more. They never said anything directly but kept on ill treating me. He and his parents treated me like their servant. I started harassing me physically , financially. He used to drink and have sex with me when i had my periods also. Within a month he was ill due to his liver stone problem. He was operated and at that time his family did not pay a single penny. I did not have so much fund for operation so asked my father to pay the bills.but as my father is retired i asked my husband to pay off the dues in near future. He argued with me and refused to pay off the dues. I was very frustrated with his and family attitude towards me and my family. I asked for divorce. But the discussion took a back seat because after few days we had to shift to delhi for he got a new job in delhi. For shifting also my father paid the bills. After arriving to delhi within a week without wasting any time further i started searching for job. By god' grace i got a job. By that time my parents had come to delhi for helping me in shifting as my husband was not fit to do all this. As i was new to delhi my father accompanied me for interview and i got through but this was never appriciated by my husbank neither by my in laws. My husband started ill treating my parents which again brought our differences back in picture my parents ralised that we might land up in fights with each other so they decidedto stay in delhi for couple of months sp that we do not land up trouble but my husband took it in te other way saying yhat my parents stayed bank only to support me for out divorce. Myparents took up a rented apartment near us. After a month my inlaws came in again to stay with us. My inlaws again started creating misunderstanding between us. My inlaws never liked the idea of my parents staying near us. They never liked me calling my parents also. Along woth my husband my inlaws also started misbehaving with my parents. They kept on saying all non-sence in front of me about my parents. When i returned from office i was never alloed to sit and have food with them. Either i was served all alone or i was told to wait till they had food after which i had mine. After job also i kept on doing all house hold chores all by my self. I was unable to cope up with all that. I wanted to have rest but they never allowed me. That is the rwason that when ever i used to get any holiday i went to my parents house to take some rest. Which my husband and in laws did not like. By the time my health had taked a toll. Then my parents decided to speak to my in laws about my job and health. My in laws insulted my parents very badly. My parents wrre deeply hurt. After month my in laws left till then the damage was already done. We constantly had fights between us. My husband started commenting on me stating that i was having affair with someone else and instead of office i used to date him. One fine day i was very ill. I left for office but half the way i was very ill and i decided to return back. I was having severe stomach pain. I called my husband and told him not to leave for office as i was coming back. After i came back he stated it was my trick i was playing games. I was fime i kept on begging him to take me to a doctor as i was unable to go all alone he said i was playing trick to create a worng impression on my parents stating that he was not taking care of me. I was in tremendous pain then i finally got up and took up a knife and warned him that either i will cut my wrist or if will ill him. Then he was scared and took me to the doctor but taht that he did not go to office but visited the police station and compalaind against me saying i tried to kill him. At night police came to arrest me but he some how managed it by saying i was unwell. That very day he clled up my parents and said all rubbish to them. Insulted them in very way.
Next morning i decided to leave my husbands house and stay with my parents. On 1st sep 2015 i leaft my husbands house till date i am with my parents. My parents are trying for my divorce. Till date neither my in lwas called me nor my husband called me to take me home. Though i tried to visit my hiusband for convincing him but every time it all ended up in fight.
Now i dont know what is actually right and wrong. What should i do now. Should i go for divorce or not.
Please suggest me something.
Your husband (and his family) sound emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive.
I would leave now. They are making your life miserable and you deserve better than that.
Would it be possible to return to your family (or friends?) for a time to get the love and support you need as you file for divorce?
I AM STAYING WITH MY FAMILY ITSELF THEY ARE VERY SUPPORTIVE. BUT I AM UNABLE TO FORGET MY HUSBAND. I LOVE HIM ALOT. MY HUSBAND IS A MOM'S BOY. HIS PARENTS ARE MAKING OUR LIFE MISERABLE BY CREATING MISUNDERSTANDING BETWEEN US.
I JUST WANT TO KNOW WHAT WILL BE THE RIGHT STEP FOR ME. SHOULD I TAKE DIVORCE OR RETURN BACK???? PLEASE I AM VERY VERY CONFUSED.
WILL I EVER GET A GOOD MAN IN MY LIFE????