I think you do need to leave, the biggest challenge is figuring out how.
Have you reached out to everyone you know? (Some of the time, someone unexpected might be able to help.) Also, have you looked into how much it would cost to live (maybe with roommates?) and how you can budget that into your life? IS there the possibility of getting additional work elsewhere?
I ask because this situation sounds heartbreaking to me, and I think you should get out of it. But I think you need a plan together first. Perhaps try a separate bank account (so you can protect your money) along with hiding some? (Perhaps enough for a month's rent elsewhere?)
Also, are there organizations you could reach out to (a church, a charity, a shelter)? Just thinking of ideas!
It is a tough to I sometimes lay in bed at night wishing I knew who to reach out to and were to start I never come up with a answer I am not sure how many hours a week I could work as my immune system is still compromised In my heart of hearts I know I need to move on But so many obstacles standing in my way And to the outside world people see a great guy. HE HAS HIDDEN IT WELL and so have I Only as of recent are a few close friends seeing the real him Oh I dream of a happy life someone who would cherish and respect me and to not live the rest life happy and appreciated. To have a roof over my head and enough money to survive and no one to put me down,verbally abuse me and blame me for everything to live in peace I am a immaculate house wife I clean, cook , sew do minor repairs you name it None of which he gives me credit for
We have a beautiful home , RV and lived comfortably but it all has come with a price Me being the one who gets torn down
and blamed for everything that goes wrong. He treats me like I am dumb and a child My Mom is so tired of seeing this as well as my son But he gives them things which seems to keep them from standing up for me or to him my children are in there mid 20's and don't live home have not since they left for University So having this site to vent is great I have never shardd my story before and so afraid he will catch me doing so But I am so hurt a d so done with all this I feel myself screaming insidd someone just help me. I eve looked at the gofundme site thinking I could get others to help me get out of this mess but once again I am afraid to reach out to my community and so I spend another day my sole in pain
In my case being the husband, I was at fault but didn't realise this without a woman's view and conselling which has shown excellent improvement in me. The people who helped me are in this website so I trust you will receive some help and encouragement. Good luck.
My guess is that your community - or at least the parts worth dealing with - are more supportive than you realize. One of the challenges of emotional abuse is that it makes you feel worthless, and like no one but your abuser loves you. I suspect this is not true.
Even a less than great life, I suspect, would be better than the one you are living now. I would find a way to escape, if not today, then within a year. Plan little by little, until you can spread your wings and soar away.
Yes I believe you are right I need to start planning to make a new life Thank you as far as reaching out in the community it is difficult as his already failing company would most definetely would fail leaving me in worse state then now I am not sure hos to move forward but so wish the right person would fall into my life to help me Guess I really hoped I would not be middle aged and alone
In my case I initially tried professional therapy but didn't feel comfortable, mayb because I chose a male at that stage. In here almost in desperation too, it certainly opened my eyes to the way the differen genders minds worked.
Take the good advice in here, I think there may be more.
I guess a big part of me is so afraid I will live the rest of my life alone, no one will want me as I am 54 and have been ill
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