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Okay. So, maybe this is juvenile and just high school heartbreak but it's really sucking the life out of me. I really like this guy, we can call him Jake, well I have spent all of highschool seeing this boy and never thinking twice about him. He wasn't my type. But one day at a football game(our student section has themes) and we had on similar USA outfits so I took a selfie with him and he had me send it to him. From there we started texting a lot and got really close. Never dating but pretty close. I cared a lot for him and he told me he cared for me. We decided a relationship wasn't the best move considering he is about to leave for college like 1,000 miles away. He was offered a baseball scholarship. We started spending a lot of time together and I really fell for this boy. He was notorious for canceling plans with me. I never really gave him grief about it. I knew he was dealing with getting everything in place before leaving for North Carolina. But he never posted about me on his Instagram or Twitter(petty, I know) but he is all over mine. He always had other girls on his social media. One day I hugged him goodbye and made sure we were still going to hang out. I was gonna drive over to his house and work on AP Bio and watch movies. Then before I left I texted him to make sure he was akwake and ready for me to come over. And he never texted me(sometimes he feel asleep on me). He finally texted that he got grounded and wouldn't tell me why. Then the next day at school he ignored me all day and I'm class sat next to someone else never replied to my texts and then 2 days later was hanging out with someone in his car(I saw it on snapchat). I still have no clue what happened. He won't talk to me. And he has started to flirt with other girls and asked some notoriously sloppy girl to prom. After he told me he was skipping prom and going camping. I really want to act like I don't care and that I'm better without him but I'm really hurt. So much of me want to know what the hell happened. I want to hate him but I really care about and pray for nothing but the best for him. I just don't know what to do with him acting like what we did and had never happened while I'm dying inside over it. I honestly have never cared so much for someone. I know how great he can be. I'm just so stuck with wanting to know what the heck happened between saying goodbye at school and the next day being ignored until I got the point it was over. He never actually said he was done with me. But I can't say anything because HEAVEN FORBID I SHOW I CARE!? HOW DARE I DO THAT?!

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It seems like maybe he was catching on to the fact that you cared for him more then he cared for you. Im not trying to be rude but maybe he saw you wanted something more and he wants yo be care free and not tied down before he goes to college. I know hes flirting with other girls but maybe thats all he wants is something casual meaningless and maybe he know that wasnt the case for you. Guys aren't good at expressing things so it could be easier to just walk away then to say it out loud. I hope this helps goof luck.

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Sounds like you fell too easily, and for the wrong guy. He wouldn't be ready to settle for a girl like you, who sounds like wifey material. Don't worry about it though. There are tons of guys who would love to meet a girl like you. I know if I was twenty years younger, I would.

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You said: "We decided a relationship wasn't the best move considering he is about to leave for college like 1,000 miles away." That may be what's in his mind as his understanding about what his course of action is going to be with you: NO action. He may not be able to verbalize that, so he ignores you (young men do that)

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