Wife out of character
Last night wife seemed to not really want sex but we started and about 10 mins in she suddenly pulled away and said I'm to tired could understand if she had just said stop I'm to tired like she has in the past but don't understand the sudden pulling away
I'm afraid that's woefully too little data. Can you try again, please? And when you do can you include whether you asked HER what was up and what response you got?
I did ask her and she said nothing in it she was just tired and she isn't one to do it to just please me if she's tired she normally would just say not tonight
BOGGSY, thanks for that bit but I said 'INCLUDE' in your better-detailed response. That's still far too little data. Start from the beginning - when you met, what ages you were, whether you've got kids and their ages, etc., etc., and whether this is the first out of character thing you've noticed coming from her or whether things have been a bit iffy (and how long for).
If you can do that, I'll take a look tomorrow (too up against it today) - or any other advisers can step in in the meantime.
boggsy- maybe she was just tired. she started out trying to make you happy but just couldn't get into it. Not everything has to have a deeper meaning. sometimes you are just not yourself. And for soulmate- if he wanted to give a life story he would have. don't make someone feel inadequate - people give what they can.
BOGS - How about that THIS time she really WAS too tired? (BTW - how often is she "tired"?)
PS - Need2More - one thing Soulmate does NOT do is make people feel inadequate!! Far from it. She probably just thought some information about what was going on in the marriage might be of help in figuring out what happened - since this fella seems totally clueless.
"And for soulmate- if he wanted to give a life story he would have. don't make someone feel inadequate - people give what they can."
It's like Susie said (cheers, missus!). Although I can and do, if and when someone needs putting back in their place. This case, you, because...
1. Unless you and the OP, unbeknownst to the rest of us, share some secret hotline or something - how on earth are you qualified to comment one way or the other over how a total stranger feels in response to anything, considering he himself hasn't expressed any such sentiment?
2. I couldn't have made it any clearer that it was the amount and depth of data that was inadequate. Or are you suggesting that you'd expect your GP to diagnose a condition or disease of yours, based on your describing only one single symptom and that if s/he told you it was too little data and you needed to be more expansive, s/he could be accused of making you feel inadequate?
3. As for ticking off other members, this case, senior - did I die and make you moderator?
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