No Breakthrogh in husbannds manners
The last years since a brain surgery in 2001, have become a hell for myself and my husbands family, and the friends we have. Culmination in a disaster three weeks ago between my husband and his father, For 31 years we had been able to keep my husband working when other people that could not take the same stresses as my husband as far as working decades without time off, harsh working conditions, and even iszolation from social needs.
Most of what happened was what his father said needed to happen, so people would not be disrupted or affected when my husband wanted something for himself, such as a vacation slot, holiday or just a day off, Things happened in such a way that people started getting hurt, when they started to interfere with what my husband wanted for himself, I tried continuing sex denial as a means of keeping him controls until it became a habit for me to say no to him and even threaten Marital rape if he tried for many years. I would make it reward at the end of his work time and retirement if he just not disrupt the lives of other people.
what was tried was a horrible failure, My husband after a Surgery that involved drilling a hole from over his right eye to the center of his head to remove a tumor that caused Adult onset hydrocephalus just made everything worse for the rest of the community. We lost all cooperation from my husband after that. To keep him from taking me I had to start doing things as a volunteer for when he was home, intimidation with firearms was used and many time a sheriffs deputy had to get him to do as was wanted by telling him things like he could either go to work or spend the holidays in jail until the courts went into session after the holiday when he would be charged with public disturbance. my husband went to work one way or another, Until 2009 when he developed MRSA in his spine. He was retired at that point. he was supposed to be confined to a wheel chair, But after thre years he was walking with the help of a cane and left the doctors wondering how without nerve impulse.
The last two years H finally had the first thing he wanted from me, No fanfare Me begging to negotiate the way to let him have at least a little of the life he wanted, He just said I owed 31 years of marital life and After I begged to go to a political fund raiser with his fathers best friend and said He could pick a place to meet after the event and his father, and everyone that needed him to cooperate would meet him there and we would take his complaints about how he was treated over the last three decades, and hammer out something for every ones satisfaction including his, that we just needed top slow things down, First he said he was the only dog in this hunt, nobody mattered but him now, and he was not going in reverse any longer matter how I felt or his family felt, he was no longer subject to being a slave, I had no idea he felt he was treated as a slave. I took for the door and he ripped my fdress of and he said I paid for this it stays I was begging Please lets slow this down not like this after so long, He said you other lovers are taking the back seat tonight I am the only one in your life but I am taking my due I was not given a choice I just hurt myself trying to resist and asked him to use protection which he said no to he wanted to feel everything he had not had the last three decades, I was afraid for him since I had been with other men.
!5 Months ago I delivered his son. I had waved my white flag that day and that left my husband to destroy 33 years of family holiday tradition and his father just about died for trying to interfere. He was angry his son would be so man has the right as to invite himself on the latest tri annual vacation without being asked, He showed up thinking he was going to teach my husband that civil people did not just invite them selves, they waited for inclusion no matter how long it took . He swung the bat coming through the door and it was blocked buy my husbands cane, My husband then retaliated with am uppercut and broke his fathers neck.
I don't know a way to keep my husbands wrath off of people as they try and interfere with him. I try and tell everyone they are out of their league if they try. my husband doesn't care about his own life now. he would let people take it, as long as they lose theirs also. he said at least his would be quike and fast. but he said whoever was the one to take him out they would face many years looking at the day they die, I can't think like that .
I never thought that resentment could come to this.
CT - I know you have posted this story many, many times. Now you have a child involved.
Can you tell us why you stay?