My boyfriend doesn't show me regard
ANONYMOUS555 - May 7 2015 at 09:35
My bf likes to have sex on net which somehow I find horrible.I tried to do it many times with him but He z too horny,am unable to put up with him....Now if I refuse he becomes mad at me,has no regard for me...I say him that first make friendship with me n when am comfortable I would do everything he wants. but he just doesn't understand.He seems only to b concerned about physical pleasure he has no value or respect for how I feel.He misbeahave with me a lot.i love him n we have decided to get married n I have told him that I do not believe in sex before marriage but here too he seems v unconcerned.plez tell me what should I do...Am so dis hearted over the whole matter n don't want to leave him plez any advice???
from what you describe there is not much love in this relationship.he disregards your feelings, gets mad and misbehaves a lot according to your own admission. his sexual fantasies completely overrides your well being and the harmony of your relationship. you say that you have love for this man and that you want to marry him? are you sure you understand the definition of love? all this character cares about is cheap thrills on internet and according to you:(he has no value or respect for how I feel). do you really think that he is husband material? are you sure that you feel love for this man? love is not about cheap self gratification and thrills. love is nurturing. it will enable you to flourish as a human being. you are being abused at the moment, thats not love. and your self esteem and sense of self worth are being diminished by the day. my advice to you would be to sit him down and demand from him to take your emotional and mental well being into account. and to make it top priority in your relationship. if he goes berserk again and disregards your personal well being because of pornographic fantasies then i am afraid you have to move on with your life. i am willing to discuss this further if you are. if not i wish you the best in your every day struggle.
Dea tancred!, I appreciate your kind words.but I need more advice,...Plez anybody else show gratitude n advice me....thanks
Im sorry Im going to blunt,this could be the biggest mistake of your life. Its very easy to get swept up with a new love but I really think Tancred is right. If he only cares about sex and has no regard for your feelings hes not worth it. Give him an ultimatum either he realises that your beliefs and views are just as important as his or you cant be with him. How can you possibly contemplate being with someone who undervalues you by doing things he clearly knows that you dont agree with. If hes been that way for so long he will never change. You can continue to devote yourself to him but I think it is very admirable that you want to wait till marriage to have sex. The thing is if he doesnt respect that he doesnt really love you. Hes seems like he really needs to grow up and if you ask me hun hes far too immature for you.