I just need some advice or to vent Idk really. But here is my situation. I have been married for almost 9 years. My husband has a son in which he hasn't been able to see for awhile because the mother won't let him unless he comes to her house to visit. He tried this year's ago and it didn't work. So for a few years his son and him have had phone calls and seeing him when he is at his grandmother house. Recently he decided to go and visit. And it was going fine at first. But then he cheated with his ex. He told me of it and we have since been working on putting this behind us and working on our marriage. But he wants to talk to and see his son but can't do so because of her trying to seduce him in some shape or form. We don't have the money to take it to court. What do I do. I don't feel comfortable with it. But I can't tell a parent not to see their child. I would never be that person. But this is still to fresh for me to be comfortable with. ???
No money is needed to have a hearing about visitation. Just request it from the Family Court or whatever government agency handles his child support and visitation issues.
My dear, you are being hoodwinked if you think he can't see his son without interacting with HER. He's not over her, or he would have made arrangements to see his son some other way. She has NO right to put those kinds of restrictions on his visitation. Only the court can do that.
You need to feel very UNcomfortable about all this.
Hate to say it but I have a hard time believing that he wouldn't have cheated with someone else at another time. In your efforts to move forward, I suggest you take a close look at your relationship to discover why he cheated, was it HER or HIM that was the reason he cheated? What is he not getting from your relationship?
Feel uncomfortable and make arrangement with your husband.