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Romeo and Juliet situation?

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Online Dating advice Me and my close friend are in a sort of Romeo and Juliet situation. To get a little back story of what we are exactly I'll explain. A bit over 2 years ago me and my friend met online, everything was going smoothly we'd talk on the phone, video chat, text every day and everything. We learned a lot about each other and about our families as well. I began having feelings for him and I soon found out he had feelings for me as well, the only problem was that he did not believe in long distance relationships, so we made a compromise, for now we'd remain as close friends (who we want more with) and he's gonna come where I live and we'd discuss where our relationship will go. Everything has been going great, we've never argued and we always had an understanding and patience for one another. But there's on problem; his mother.

Since the beginning of our friendship 2 years ago she has been constantly separating us and sometimes for months on end. He'd find a way to get around her and contact me to tell me what's going on, and every time we'd always get back together and his mom wouldn't intervene (she didn't know we'd start talking to each other again) but only for a limited time because she'd intervene again. A few months ago he was gone for 3 months and I was getting worried, he texted me in secret saying that his mom got the Verizon Family base plan and made him and his brother download the app so she can keep track of who they're texting. From the base plan she found out that me and him were constantly texting each other and she blocked my number from his phone. About a month ago the Verizon Family base plan was messing with her iPad because it slowed it down so she uninstalled the app, he immediately texted me when that happened. We were perfectly fine, we texted every day again and it was fine. 3 weeks ago, he stops texting me. At this point im worried that maybe his mom found out we texted each other and she yelled at him and he got in deep trouble. I get an app that will disguise my number by giving me a new number (it was a sucky app so I couldn't keep texting him from there), so I texted him and he informs me that his mom found out that his little brother has been texting this girl and that he went and hung out with her, when she found out she was furious. She then decided to block all numbers from his phone that don't have their area code and she now monitors every app he has to make sure he isn't contacting any girls. This is honestly the worst separation she has done so far, shes never done anything like this before.

If you're wondering how the brother is involved, here's how, both him and his brother aren't allowed to text any girls whatsoever if one of them messes up then she gets mad at both of them, even his dad gets yelled at. My friend respects his mom, well, more like he's passive aggressive towards her and doesn't yell back at her. He's told me many times that her rules get ridiculous and he's sick of it but he respects women, even his mother of course, and he's not one who would just go against his parents rules. I was just wondering if there is any way around the Verizon Family base plan or if there is some way we could communicate to each other through our phones? We can't communicate through our computers because he can't stay on his for too long or suspicion from his mom will arise and I can't because I don't have a laptop and can't stay on a computer for too long.

I'm 18 and he's 19. I dont mean to sound rude but yes, we're both well aware that we don't have to listen to our parents anymore and we could go off and live on our own and whatnot but he's currently in college and about to leave for the Marines next year, after that he's not returning home, hes one who focuses a lot on work and education. My family has cultural customs where I can't leave home until I get married. We both respect our parents and don't yell back at them, we're basically well bahaved people. I apologize if I didn't explain the situation well enough. Any sort of solution where we can communicate again will be greatly appreciated!

Romeo and Juliet situation?

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I don't know where you live, but here we can get phones that have re-loadable phone time on them.

Is there a reason why both of you don't have your own phones? They aren't that expensive.

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Can you confirm which culture background you both belong to. Doesn't seem as Caucasians.

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I don't see how phone texting restrictions can really be such an obstacle when there are so many other ways to communicate online that just can't be controlled by an overprotective parent. You might lose a little of the immediacy of texting by phone with other methods but losing touch for weeks or months at a time is absurd. That doesn't sound right. I can't think of a place where an adult college student and soon-to-be Marine could be living where internet access wouldn't be accessible to him in some way or another. In what country is a college campus not wired all over with free internet access for all the students. He wants to join the Marines, so is this guy supposed to be an American? It's really absurd that an American college student can't send a text by internet to your phone even without a phone himself. I'm concerned this guy may be playing games with you... Do you know anything about him besides what he's told you himself?

I hope you are aware that you should never ever agree to meet someone you've only known online/by phone in a private place or alone. Even if it's somehow all true that he's just a college student, soon-to-be Marine, has an overprotective mother, is a good obedient son, and somehow just can't find his way to a campus computer or a local library for three months to send you a message. You need to be careful. Is the mother really being this overprotective of his virtue or is she trying to police bad behavior of a (criminal?) son? If meeting this guy in real life ever does come up and he ridicules your concerns about where, when and how to meet, you should be afraid and do NOT give in to pressure or cajoling or romantic promises. At the very least it would be a complete disregard for your safety and feelings, and that's not how a genuinely good and honest guy treats a girl he cares about. And don't ever send him money either. Be careful and be safe.

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