Hi everyone, I just wanted to share my story as I am desperate. I will start from beginning. I was in relationship for a six years , in a last year I meat a guy and I didn't know that I will really love him. As I already have been in a long relationship with other guy. The story beggin last year in February. We was working together and that is how I meat him. We start an a relationship and I already was in a relationship, of course I was hiding all the time from both of them. I really feel guilty about what I did and I feel like there is no hope for me. As time was passing I fall in love in the guy with whom I was thinking I will never love. I didn't have courage to brake up the long realtionship that is my biggest mistake . One day we decided to go on vacation together. So we went and there he took my phone and found out for my hidden long relationship. I know that I am guilty and it's very difficult to live with this especially Bcs I regret for what I did from all of my hearth. Once he found out I broke up long realtionship and I gave all of my passwords to my boyfriend and I really regret from all my hearth for what I did, and he knows that as I showed him in next two months how much I loved him and that I will be his support that I will bite for him and I will fight for him. What is going on in next two months.... He gave me a chance and we were so in love , every day he was writing to me how much he loves me that he can't leave without ne and that he don't want to lose me even if we got this situation. Only two weeks ago I found out for his secret he was lying on me since beggining for his age . He was younger than me 6 years , and I thought that as he told me was younger than me one year , when he told me this he was crying like a baby , please forgive me I don't want to lose U , do u want me in your life still he was saying , of course that I forgive him because I love him so much with ally heart , after this he suddenly change he didn't write me like before , he stop calling me often , all with excuse that he has a lot of problems , that last for two weeks until I d don't reach my level of enough I can't anymore tell me the truth what is going on , we meet and we spoke so long he told me that he is confused with me , that he doesn't know his feelings about , in one moment he say that he loves me and another moment I don't know , it was to painfull for us , he cried I cried , he said that he is confused with me since he found out for my other realtionship , but why he was saying to me that he loves me , he was so happy with me and only two weeks ago we were talking about marriage about kids , and now he left me , but he said that he wants to see me , I asked him if there is hope for us or no , he told let God decide . Thank u for reading my storie . I guess that like this I will feel better because I am so desperate .
Your lie was a huge deception. His lie was a small deception.
But BOTH of you have lied to each other, --- not a good way to keep a relationship together.
This started in February? It has just been 5 months. This is a young relationship. You are not ready to talk about marriage with a man you are just beginning to know.
Perhaps you can start all over again. Meet with him and talk about this.
This started at February 2014
As I understand it...
You've been in a relationship with this man for more than a year. Two months ago he found out that you were still seeing your previous lover for that whole time. When he caught you, you broke off the previous relationship. He said he forgave you. Then two weeks ago you found out he was younger than he claimed to be. You forgave him.
How difficult was it for him to gain your forgiveness for his lie about his age? Could he feel like he's having to work a lot harder to gain your forgiveness over a small lie when your deceit was so much more serious? Also, do you believe trust is so easily regained after you cheat on someone for as long as you did?
Two months isn't a long time for him to come to terms with you cheating on him for over a year. And since you didn't stop cheating until after he caught you, how can he trust you again so soon? You were lying to him for almost as long as you've been together. Whatever promises were made I agree with Susie, you need to treat this relationship like you're starting over. That the relationship has been longer (and so has the amount of time you were cheating on him) makes it more difficult not less. It's going to take time to regain lost trust. He can love you and still want to be with you but that doesn't mean he's ready to trust you or marry you. It's understandable for him to be confused and uncertain right now. If you love him, be patient with him. And be honest.