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My boyfriend and I have been together for five months now. The first two months after being together just one week, we were in a long distance relationship. We talked on the phone for at least three to five hours a day. We got to know each other and fell in love. When I came home from working out of state, we decided to move in together. We get along perfectly and our love just keeps getting stronger. He treats me like a queen and seems to adore me as I do him. He has been celibate for eight years, because of his values. He tells me and shows me all the time he is attracted to me. He kisses me passionately and we make it all the time. But we have been living together for a little over two months now and we have never had sex. I've told him how this bothers me and how I'm a very sexual person and he says that we will have sex, he's just too nervous and afraid he won't satisfy me. I love him more than anything, but I'm worried that this is going to be a sexless relationship. I don't think I want that but I don't want to give up on the best relationship I've ever had....besides the no sex. Please give me some advice on this.

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"He has been celibate for eight years, because of his values."

WHAT values is he talking about?

Are you saying you don't have intercourse? Is there petting going on?

So many things going on here - can you tell that he is getting turned on or not?

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Yes, there is lots of heavy petting going on. I can definitely tell he is getting turned on. He doesn't believe in casual sex. He is a very attractive man, that is incredibly sweet and attentive. We just don't have intercourse.

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You've told him how you feel. From experience, I feel like he isn't a sexual person, which you said you are a very sexual person.
You have the choice of leaving to find a sexual relationship, or accepting it and hoping he either becomes more sexual, or your sex drive drops.
If your relationship is as great as you say, sex seems like a very minor negative of the relationship.

From my experience, they usually come around and he ends up wanting it more than you.

( there are other ways to relieve sexual tension, just saying )

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