I was with my boyfriend for 3 years. We got engaged after one year of dating, however after about a year I broke off our engagement. I did love him very much, but I felt we weren't ready for marriage yet, due to financial reasons mostly. He accepted this and continued with our relationhip, although we were fighting more frequently. Recently, after an argument, he found comfort in the arms of another girl. He did actually have the decency to tell me about this after a few weeks, even though we already started reconciling. According to him, he thought we were done after the argument and cited anger and bitterness as the reason for his deeds. However, after the argument I wasn't under the impression that we were broken up.
He apologized profusely for what he did, but I wasn't very receptive to his apologies as I felt I was cheated on. I demanded that he broke off all contact with this woman, but he said he cant make such promises as he is professionally connected with her.
I have a history of depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. After finding out about his betrayal, my state of mind has drastically changed for the worst. I have zero motivation to continue my studies and question everything going on in my life. I am deeply suffering, but in my heart I still love him and believe we belong together. I am desparate for any advice right now concerning our future. Just sharing my story already lightens my load.
Thank you for the opportunity to share my story.
We have similar issues and it does stop you in your tracks but try to be strong. I tried to rationalize my husband then boyfriends infidelity. If you understand how he was hurt then maybe there is room for forgiveness. I must warn you its a very emotional journey that has the potential to go bad as well as good. Be truthful with yourself about what you can handle.