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I'm happy but lonely

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Emotional advice I'm living far away from home, for two years, I'm living in a flat with nice people and have a job. However I work weekends as my job requires it and there's not really any chance I could get a Monday-Friday as I haven't yet been to uni so not many good jobs are open to me. I'm travelling still really. I've been here for 3 months and still only have 2 friends. One of them is a bit of a socialite and has a million friends who she has to 'catch up' with every week so doesn't have much time for anyone, maybe once a week at most for an hour or two. The other is nice but again, I don't see him regularly as we both work shifts and they rarely match. Flatmates are usually a great way of meeting people in a new city, my first flat I lived with very unsociable people and just moved into a new place with more sociable people - we eat together most nights. But they all have their own friends and lives which I don't really. Even my flatmate who moved in on the same day as me and is also new in the city seems to have met people quickly and has more of a life than me.. She already met a guy. When I'm working the weekend (early morning shift) and so go bed early, it mKes me so depressed listening to my flatmate and his friends laugh and have fun. I have people here but not close close friends and I miss it so much and just want a social life and some more fun. I like my own space and having some time to myself and a lot of the time I'm happy to do my own thing and be alone but I need a balance of the two and at the moment I don't have it. I feel like such a loser! It's hard to go to meet ups and events as well when I work most weekends so meeting people is harder. I'm 21 and it's a really hard age to meet people in a new city if you aren't at university. Any advice?

I'm happy but lonely

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You may have colleagues at your work. Better to be friends with people with same routine and life style like yours there would be hundreds of unknown people just like you. Better to wait for someone to come or just search one out!

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