PeoplesProblems Logo

Guest who doesn't give a gift

Default profile image
Other advice We had a family event in a restaurant at the end of which all of the guests gave my child a gift, except for one who said he forgot his card at home and will mail it to us. He was there with his 2 kids and a brand new girlfriend. It's been almost a month and the gift is not coming, obviously, he lied. He's a family friend of my husband's. I even texted him over a week ago to get information about a sport his kids play thinking that will remind him, he just answered my questions and still nothing. I just feel like it's really mean... how is that fair to other guests who gave us generous gifts? My husband says just let it go... but I'm really upset by it. What is your opinion/advice? Thanks.

Guest who doesn't give a gift

Default profile image
There is no obligation to "gift" anyone at any time, is there? Just being there to share your child's day should have been enough.

So back down on the pressure you put on anyone to gift your children. - and don't write things down in your personal "ledger" about gifts. As the years go my, you will never keep it straight.

PS I doubt if other people were counting or comparing gifts. Teach your children to treasure friendships, not the type of gifts they receive.

Guest who doesn't give a gift

Default profile image
Let it go. People don't like people who demand gifts. Plus he's a guy and they don't get it and forget easily. I'm sure your child had well enough gifts to play with.

Guest who doesn't give a gift

Default profile image
I don't demand anything. I thought it was common courtesy. But don't lie to me in my face how you forgot your card at home. THAT is not right!

Guest who doesn't give a gift

Default profile image
It may be common courtesy to you but not everybody thinks the same way. I have always given gifts on every occasion I had been invited to, whether it be at a house, hotels, or restaurants. But not every one is like me. For the more fancier occasions, I have gotten invitations where the celebrants indicated on the invites that they prefer cash over presents.

If you wanted all guests to have come with presents, then specify on the invites next time so there will be no hard feelings. Honestly, if he is a friend of your husband, let it go. Fuming over this trivial thing is not worth losing a friendship.

This thread has expired - why not start your own?

B-0