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Am I being selfish?

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I have a boyfriend who lives a little over an hour from me. He also works long hours and sometimes seven days a week. But, on the chance that he is off for a day, I sometimes would like to see him. He was off yesterday, but I got to see him last Sunday, so I didn't even ask to see him. At any rate, I told him that I missed him and that his working hours are hard for us to be together, so if he got next Sunday off could I come to see him, but he said, we'll see. I said, Why? What do you mean? He told me that with him working so much, he may not feel like entertaining anyone. I got upset and told him that he didn't have to entertain me, that he didn't have to put out for me, that I just wanted to be with him. I told him if he really cared about me, then seeing me, would not be an inconvenience to him. That he would miss me too and want to see me as much as I wanted to see him. We have been seeing each other almost a year and when he got his weekends off before the company upped his hours, he didn't have a problem seeing me. He wanted to see me. He would call me and invite me over, but now I'm an inconvenience. Am I right to be upset with him or am I being selfish, like he says I'm being?

Am I being selfish?

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He sounds like he just doesn't want to deal with all of it. He really isn't much of a boyfriend, is he? No - really - he is NOT a BF. Cut him off and see if he even bothers to call you.

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Well you have to even consider the possibilities that he is extremely exhausted. As you are saying he works for long hours. And you guys have been going out for a year now. So what I want to say is waiting for the right moment to talk it out that your feeling alone and want to be with him on weekends and working it out together instead of cutting him off.Hope i helped.:)

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U came here for advice which shows you already know this isn't right. Listen to your gut and don't ignore the red flags. Men don't like to hurt feelings or or be responsible for hurting a woman. But let me tell you this because he sounds exactly like my husband of 14 years when we were dating when he said he doesn't have time to entertain you. If a man wants to be with you NOTHING will get in his way I don't care how much he works you should be what he looks forward to when he is done for the week. Don't be fooled because you feel you wasted all this time on this relationship and now you have to start over. I am in a very unhappy and pathetic marriage and planning on leaving after my two kids graduate high school. I don't know how old you are but don't let the fear of being alone force you into a relationship that doesn't come EASY. If you are questioning things and your gut says this isn't right then it isn't. When you wind up doing all the work and forcing him into it you will resent him and feel like less than a woman because he didn't actively pursue you. Don't wind up like me. I wish I could go back and be strong enough to wait for better.

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