Mother / daughters and fathers
My two daughters ,ages 43 and 41 have a very strained relationship..but it seems their Father can do no wrong. This has been extremely difficult since our younger daughter's divorce. No matter what I do or say it's never the right thing. I thought My husband was supporting me in trying to handle all thier issues with me, but I find out he's really playing both sides. It came to light over Father's Day week end. I told him today I can no longer live like this, being the odd person out. and he could either choose me or our daughters. He chose our daughters and moved into another property we own. What is Happening? We've been married 45 years.....do I deserve this?????????
My mother and i used to have a wonderful relationship..now..not so much so maybe i can shine some light.
As far as your husband goes. He is the middle man. That cant be easy on him, he has been doing what he thought was right.
Making you and his daughters happy.
You are both stressed. You need to go to him and not leave until you work that out. but be loving and sensitive of his feelings as well. Ok. Mother & daughters have a hard time bc most times they are either soo much alike or different. Take the time to re-set your relationships. apologize even if you have done no wrong. Become more open to talk and focused on their lives. but make sure its not tooo much. Ya know?
sometimes as much as its a childish way to go about things, but text. be in the same dang room and text. write it down. get things out of your heart and down on paper to asure your calm and nothing gets distorted. i hope everything gets better and i know i may not be spot on bc i dont know your exact situation but sometimes love cures.
take a couple hours to be loving and discuss things. DINNER TIME. People dont sit around a DANG TABLE no more!
family needs family time or things build up do not get resolved but pushed aside to focus on other aspects of life and its just not healthy!