My wife thinks I don't love her anymore?
So recently my wife has been looking on Google for reason of why I don't love her anymore. I mean I do love her, with all my heart but I don't seem to be pleasing her right I would say. I've asked her what's wrong because I don't want to seem like I'm not in tune with her emotions or anything of that nature but that only causes problems. I just need a different view of the situation because I honestly don't know what I'm doing so wrong. I treat her as my wife and my bestfriend. I tell her my problems and everything. I just don't know.
Hi, you did'nt mention how long you guys have been married. Women are motivated by there emotions. Don't ask her what's wrong, she feels you shoud know what's wrong, instead ask her to tell you what you have done or said to make her feel this way.Then really listen to what she says. Tell her you are really concern about how she feels, that her feelings MATTER TO YOU. How you treat her is as important as your words. Then step it up, take the lead,
really start catering to her. Surprise her with something in her favorite color.You know your wife likes. Plan a weekend get away EVER DETAIL. Be close, sit close, hold hands, try to make body contact, sometimes it the little that matter,SHOW RATHER THAN TALK. You said you don't want to seem like your not in tune with her emotions, either you are or you're not. It's your responsiblity to put the romance back in your love life. Surprise her with breakfast in bed (then clean the entire kitchen!) leave nothing for her to do.
When you say you treat her like a wife, what does that really mean? You must get her to really tell you WHAT YOU HAVE DONE TO MAKE HER FEEL THS WAY.If she does'nt want to verbally address it, ask her to write you a letter, you have to find out what is making her feel this way, without that information
you will never be able to address and fix the problem.
We've been married for almost two years now. But we were dating five years prior to.. I do everything for her. I even go to her job and help her there. I cook, clean and try to show her to the best of my ability that she means a lot to me. She's always putting herself down. Calling herself names and anything to make her feel hopeless and I do nothing but tell her she's beautiful, I take her out to show her I want nothing but to cater to her. Everything I do is for her. Like, we are very young,21, but I just feel like almost 7years of being together is wearing her mind down and making her think I'm just not into her anymore. Even though I constantly tell/show her that she's it for me. So I'm really just lost.
Thanks for the info though....
You sound a really good guy.You guys are really young. She seems to be "self-abusing", her feeling hopeless/calling herself names doesn't seem normal to me. You both need get into some type of therapy/counseling. She may be suffering from some type of depession / low self esteem ,that you are not aware of. Don't be afraid to seek some professional help. It take TWO people to make a marriage work, you seem like the only one doing the work, in time her constant belitting, demeaning herself will continue to put a strain on your marriage. You've done all that you can do. Get some help.