hi I am Luke from the UK I am very worried about my parents, last night a big row erupted between my parents it stemmed from my dad being a bit short with my mum and she got upset I then hot involved and then a row erupted with me and my dad. I know feel very guilty and am worried I feel like I took sides .my dad also said some horrid things about them not getting along at the moment it scared me. But I am s adult do am I just thinking to much and being silly or not , I feel very upset they have both been good parents to a extent so I cannot say anything bad about my upbringing. Any help and advice would be much appreciated , thank you.
Is this fighting something new, or has it been a pattern their entire marriage? I hope you allow them to have disagreement, with you not thinking you have to "side" with either one. No guilt on your part - this is THEIR issue.
You aren't a marriage counselor, so don't feel as though you need to fix anything, in fact, don't even talk to them about this - except to encourage them to get some help from a professional.
You say they have been good parents. That's nice. And - if worse comes to worse - each of them would continue to be a good parent to you.
Parents fight and i understand you might worry. If you feel its something you can talk to them about, please approach the parent you feel will be more open to listening to what you have to say. sometimes adults have disagreements, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. you can also just take a step back and let them figure it out themselves. please don't take all this in as they are adults and as you say, they are good parents, they should be able to think about whats best and work on creating a healthy environment. sometimes life can be a bit up and down, but we make the best out of everything. just be calm and talk to both or either of them so they know how you feel. good luck with everything!