Married but lonely, do I deserve better?
I know that any way I say this it sounds like ll I do is feel sorry for myself. I dont mean to sound that way. I am a 49 year woman and although I realize that I am not perfect, I do think that I am a good person. I have been married for four years to a man who is bi-polar. Although I work a full time job I still do everything I am supposed to at home. I cook, clean, do the laundry, all the shopping, etc... I also do all of the mowing and home repairs that need to be done. I try to do my part. He, on the other hand, does not work. He will not touch tjw house in any way. He does not tall to me except to ask me to do something for him which is constantly, even while I am at work. I feel very overwhelmed with responsibility. In return, I get no thanks. I do get cussed out almost on a daily basis and told constantly how horrible I am. He calls me nasty names and is always putting me down. I can find nothing positive in this relationship. I have owned my home for 27 years now but he refuses to move out. I am at the end of my rope with no way out. I would just really love to have someone to talk to who says nice things and is interested in my life.
File for divorce. Sounds like you need to be out of this unhealthy relationship. He wi be told to move by a certain date. You have only been married 4 yrs. Doubt you have accumulated much debt or property together. Is this house in your name only? If so doubt that he would get any part of that. Life is too short to be unhappy. Time to set him free....forcibly!
Is this a loveless marriage? You don't mention about early love or how this got into this kind of shape. You say you don't see anything positive about the relationship. Why marriage, then?
Has he changed or has he been like this all along and you didn't see it?
Is he on medication? does he take it?
Four years is not much and yes, you deserve happiness.
You are being abused mentally and emotionally. Yes! There IS a way out and that is through hiring a Lawyer and filing for divorce. Will it be stressful? Absolutely, but you'll be happy when it's over.
On a side note... You cook, clean, do the laundry, all the shopping and do all of the mowing and home repairs that need to be done?
Wow! You're quite a catch!
Let the grass grow and tell him to mow it.
Quit cooking and see what he says.