M over pressurised
Hi m 27 year old indian women. M a double graduate. While studying i got married to an software engineer(arranged marriage). In the final semister i got a job at a well known university. I worked there for 6 months and by that time was pregnant n had to quit my job. After delivery again i got a job to assist an project for which i was at my mothers place because noone was there at my inlaws home to take care of my baby. I worked there for 6 months and had to quit my job bçoz my husband din't want me to move in that field and wanted me to take up projects and work from home. Now m in my inlaws home with my husband and baby, taking care of everything. My kid is now 3 year old. I have to get up at 6 in the morning. Pack breakfast n lunch for my husband, get ready my son to school drop him, come back, work, take care of everything and he wont even care for my pains i go through daily. He don't even help me a bit in any work. He don't look at son's face. He will eat his food and spend time on his couch with his mobile and laptop. If i ask something he ll blame everything on his work and tells me not to irritate him. He don't even speak to me properly. Now i have projects in my hand and i dont know how i will complete it with so many things to do around. M mentally exhausted and needs some break from everything. ll i be able to get out of this anytime?feels like M like stuck in this situation forever...
Two words for you:
Housekeeper & Nanny
You are overloaded and must get some help because you are married to a self-centered, self-obsessed man who has no respect for your efforts and wishes no involvement with his own child.
I think you should take your life back, do something that you want to do rather than having your husband control your life.
Have your husband help you out and if he wont then leave. I'm not saying forever, just long enough to get some perspective. Go to a resort with your kid or somewhere you would both enjoy, take a little bit of time off from work and just relax.
Try talking with your husband when he isn't on his mobile or laptop, talk about the issues in your relationship, and how you are gunna fix them, demand what you want done. It will be tough at first but just stick to it until he finally understands.